My 24-year-old wife cheated on my junior high school male classmate. I didn't choose to forgive. Is it too cruel?-chloeaktas.com

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My 24-year-old wife cheated on my junior high school male classmate. I didn't choose to forgive. Is it too cruel?

time：2023-03-26 13:31:01 source：chloeaktas.com author：Housewife

My 24-year-old wife cheated on my junior high school male classmate. I didn't choose to forgive. Is it too cruel?

Ask: My wife Xiaoli and I have been married for three years, and we have gotten along well for the past three years. Although there is no child yet, everything is going well. To my surprise, not long ago I found out that she cheated on my junior high school male classmate. Although she tried her best to explain, I did not give her a chance to explain, but chose to divorce. Now calm down and reflect on yourself, am I being a little too hard-hearted? what do I do? To clarify doubts: Since the wife betrayed, her feelings must have been hurt, and her heart hurts a lot, right? To forgive or not to forgive is a reasonable act. After all, no one is a saint. Ordinary people face ordinary feelings and solve problems with subjective emotions. There is no absolute right or wrong. As for whether it is cruel, the key depends on whether the relationship between you and your wife is deep enough. If you had a deep relationship before, the two of you even had the experience of enduring hardships and suffering together, and the days went smoothly, and there were no special conflicts. Then, in the face of her one-time betrayal, if you don't take into account any feelings and refuse to forgive, it may seem a little cruel. And, relative to a happy and full life, it might not be worth it. After all, everything has changed dramatically, both personally and as families. If the two of you don't usually have a very good relationship, there are even some disputes or places where you feel sorry for both parties. Moreover, betrayal is not a one-time or two-time behavior. She has already planned it, or it is commonplace, so there is no need to forgive, and the decisive treatment must be decisive. Otherwise, the longer the delay is, it will not be a good thing for both the family and each other. To sum up, whether you are cruel or not depends not only on whether you forgive or not, but on the situation of the relationship between you two. Whether it is worth forgiveness or not is fundamental. At the same time, it is also necessary to find out whether the wife's betrayal is intentional or forced. If it's intentional, it means that she doesn't pay that much attention to marriage. Only if you deal with it ruthlessly can you usher in good happiness. If it is forced or wrong, as a husband, you should help her solve the problem. When a man treats feelings, he should have a tender side and a side that dares to take responsibility. When encountering a problem, find out the root cause of its occurrence and prescribe the right medicine to solve it properly. Contradictions between husband and wife should not be treated in isolation, but should look at each other's feelings and the impact on the family. Weighing the pros and cons is a skill in itself. (The picture is taken from the Internet, the picture and text have nothing to do)

(Responsible editor：A solitary woman)

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