The leftover woman in the north said: My boyfriend and ex are in frequent contact, but they claim to be ordinary friends, should I accept it?

time:2022-10-02 05:30:33 source:chloeaktas.com author:Rich young woman
The leftover woman in the north said: My boyfriend and ex are in frequent contact, but they claim to be ordinary friends, should I accept it?

Ask: I am a North drifter, 34 years old this year. I don't have a lot of good points, and I'm not good looking, so personal issues haven't been settled. This year, I finally found a boyfriend who came from the same place as I and met online. Soon we were living together. However, I found that he kept in touch with his ex, and even said some ambiguous words, and even went to celebrate his ex's birthday. I asked him, but he said he was just an ordinary friend, should I accept this statement? To clarify doubts: "Every ex is a potential time bomb." Men and women who are in love must understand the meaning of this sentence. Whether it is a man or a woman, having a relationship experience is not a shameful thing, and it is not worth worrying too much, or even talking about it. Now that the two have established a relationship, they should face it calmly and trust each other. However, the ex is always just the ex. Since there is an incumbent, you must make a break with the ex. It is lingering, entangled, and chaotic, which will only add unnecessary trouble to the existing relationship. Now that you have broken up, don't get in touch. The so-called "ordinary friends" and other characters are purely deceitful nonsense. All exes who keep in touch with each other in the name of "friends" have ulterior secrets or expect indescribable things to happen. Girl, it's not normal that your boyfriend is still in constant contact with his ex. Whether it is a good friend or an ordinary friend, he will not lose anything in your life if he loses such a role. On the contrary, he maintains such a role position, and adding such a person in your life will only increase the contradictions and misunderstandings between you. So, you don't need to accept his statement at all. Of course, not accepting does not mean completely rejecting him. Your relationship needs to continue. So, you have to take the opportunity to express your attitude to him first - you are disgusted and cannot accept that he remains friends with his ex, and hope that they will cut off contact. If he really loves you, he will respect your attitude, take into account your feelings, and pay attention to his words and deeds in the future. On the other hand, if he doesn't care about your attitude and insists on keeping in touch with his ex, it only means that your weight in his heart is not enough, and the ex has a more important position in his heart. And this is also a good time for a test. Many men say "friends" when they open their mouths, but it is doubtful whether they can really grasp the scale of friends. A lot of times, "friends" are just a cover. Love is selfish, we must take the initiative to express our attitude and our main interests. Otherwise, if you want to wait for others to realize it, it will be too late. Communicate well! I wish you happiness.

(Responsible editor:A solitary woman)

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