A woman with good luck will stay away from three kinds of families

time:2022-10-02 04:05:59 source:chloeaktas.com author:Housewife
A woman with good luck will stay away from three kinds of families

Hello friend! Our meeting was a reunion after a long absence. Click "Follow" above, we will be friends for life! Text: Ten Miles Illustration: From the Internet "I have been in love with my boyfriend for three years, and my boyfriend treats me well, looks good, and is willing to work hard to make progress, but it is because my boyfriend has a father who is a gambler, and his family has four walls, and his parents do not. Agree with this marriage, I am not marrying that gambler, why would my parents disagree." A reader friend sent such a private letter two days ago. After reading this private letter, I feel the same way. The beloved son of his parents has far-reaching plans! In the author's opinion, if my daughter wants to marry such a family, the author will also block her in various ways. Because for a woman, marrying into a family with a gambler is likely to be a disaster, and that gambler will ruin everything sooner or later. Many women think that when they marry, they live with their partner, and they don't need to have an intersection with their partner's family at all, as long as they don't live together. But in fact, no matter how far the woman hides, the relationship between her boyfriend and his father cannot be separated. They will always be a father-son relationship. Marriage is never just the union of two people, but the union of two families. Gamblers are a bomb because they will not only destroy themselves, but their families. In reality, people often ask the author: "What is a woman with a good fate?" In fact, a woman with a good fate does not marry into three kinds of families, because their choice is destined to have a good fate in marriage. A woman with a good life, a family that does not marry the wrong family and the wrong household. They all say: "If a woman is born well, it is better to marry well. As long as she can marry into a wealthy family, a woman doesn't have to work hard all her life." But in fact, such a statement is wrong. If the gap between the two sides of the family is too large, most of them cannot be happy, because the two sides cannot always be equal, and there must be one party overpowering the other. If the man is stronger than the woman, then the woman often has no status, because when the mother's family has no right to speak, she can only live by looking at people's faces. Just like the marriage of Guo Biting and Xiang Zuo. Even if there was a lot of uproar on the Internet, saying that Xiang Zuo had done something sorry to Guo Biting, Guo Biting also deleted all the previous statements. But even if his daughter was bullied, Guo Biting's father didn't dare to say anything, because the gap between the two families was too great, no matter what happened, he could only be silently angry. And if the woman's family is stronger than the man's, the woman will think that she is helping the poor, and then unconsciously despise the man, causing various problems in the marriage. Marriages with improper doors and wrong households are often unfortunate. The economic gap between the families of the two sides is too large, and the two of them will obviously not be very happy together. Just imagine, when you want to buy a favorite dress, the other party dislikes it for being too expensive, and when you want to eat a good meal, the other party dislikes you for being a waste. Such a relationship is difficult to be truly happy. You dislike me for not understanding style, and I laugh at you for not having suffered. Families that are not in the right households, not only have economic gaps, but also have big gaps in vision, mind, and three views. And these gaps, often the beginning of conflict, naturally make life a mess. A woman with a good life will not marry a family that prioritizes sons over daughters. Patriarchal families tend to be feudal and unequal between men and women. When women marry into such a family, they often have no status and dignity, and are only used as nanny and reproductive tools. They just keep urging you to have children until you have a son. They never think about the harm to the child and you of having more births. They will not give up if they fail to achieve their goals. You have no say in this decision. Don't expect your husband to help you, because in a patriarchal family, men are spoiled since childhood and rarely have a sufficient sense of responsibility. In a patriarchal family, it will not only cause harm to the woman, but also to the child. In a family, whether it is a boy or a girl, it is actually harmful to the child. In patriarchal families, boys are often spoiled. Do you expect a person who grew up to be spoiled to have any sense of responsibility? And for their daughters, they tend to belittle and hurt, which can cause pain for the child for a lifetime. Moreover, these feudal ideologies will be passed down from generation to generation. If girls do not marry into patriarchal families, the ideology of these families will not be passed on to the next generation, and then there will be true equality between men and women one day. A woman with a good life will not marry a family of a foolish and filial man. People in the world often say: "Mother's baby boy can't marry." But in the author's opinion, compared to the mother's baby boy, the foolish and filial man is more scary. A man's mother is a treasured man, which often only means that the man has no opinion and habitually obeys his mother's opinions. The quality of marriage depends on the mother-in-law. If the mother-in-law is really good, kind, mature, and reasonable, then even a married mother and a baby boy will be happy, because he will listen to his mother's words and treat you well. And if a man is a foolish and filial man, marriage is destined to be difficult to be happy. This kind of man is the kind of "it's not easy for my parents to raise me, you should be more considerate". When there is a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they will not mediate, but will blindly ask their wife to give in. Even if he knows it is his parents' fault, he will ask you to give in, and directly ask you to kneel down and apologize to your parents. For Yu Xiaonan, there is no right or wrong. Anyway, what my parents said is right. If you don't listen, it's your problem. Yu Xiaonan has a set of his own code of conduct: everything is subject to the arrangements of his parents! Not only I want to listen, but my wife and children have to listen. Even if they are wrong, they are for our own good. One's own small family, ready to sacrifice for the original family at any time, the wife and children can suffer, but the parents cannot, and then make the marriage a mess. In fact, filial piety boys are basically not respected and understood by their parents. Parents have a strong sense of control, and their children lack love when they grow up. Because they have not received enough love in their original family, they are extremely sensitive. If a woman marries a foolish and filial man, it will be difficult for her to have a happy marriage in the future, and she will even make her own children become that kind of person. Marriage is the matter of the two families, but life after marriage is the matter of the young couple. If they meet a husband who can't handle the priority, the woman's marriage is doomed to tragedy. ——END Topic of the day: "Do you think it's right"?

(Responsible editor:Divorced women)

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