There are two main reasons why women cheat in marriage

time:2022-12-03 01:03:37 source:chloeaktas.com author:Divorced women
There are two main reasons why women cheat in marriage

Hello friend! Our meeting was a reunion after a long absence. Click "Follow" above, we will be friends for life! Text: Shili Illustration: From the Internet "There is no good woman in the world, and I don't believe in women anymore. I really don't understand, I work so hard to earn money, and I obey her, obviously satisfying her. All the material needs raised, but she still betrayed her marriage, betrayed her family, and found a richer man." A few days ago, a reader friend sent such a private letter. When I saw this private letter, I had mixed feelings in my heart. For this friend, it is not that there is no good woman in the world, but that he has not met that good woman. The friend's wife chose to betray her marriage, not because the friend was not good, nor because he didn't pay enough, but because she didn't know how to be satisfied. Human desires are unlimited. If the ego does not know how to restrain it, then it will be controlled by desires and live like a walking dead. The essence of cheating is actually that the cheating party believes that the cheated party has not met his own requirements mentally, physically or materially, so he needs another person who can meet the requirements to make up for it. For example, men, their initial marriage expectations may be continuation of children, may be emotional needs, want to be taken care of, or may be other physical needs. And a woman's initial expectation of marriage may be to find a partner, live a better material life, and then be cared for and loved by her partner. And when the actual marriage cannot meet their initial expectations, some of them will use their actions to satisfy themselves, and then choose to cheat. Whether it is a man cheating or a woman cheating, the reasons can be summed up in one sentence, that is: "Inner expectations are not met." In fact, in marriage, there are only two reasons for a woman cheating. One is cheating for material gratification. In reality, there are many derailed women, not because of lack of love, but because of unsatisfied material conditions, which frustrated their vanity. So they choose to sell their bodies and souls for vanity and materialism, and then derail those men who give them more material support. These women who cheat for material things often have ordinary conditions and lack of spiritual world, so they need material conditions to pack themselves. But as everyone knows, even if they wear luxury goods, they still feel cheap. They are not comfortable with the status quo and cannot accept their ordinary selves. They will slowly look down on their partners, and will only climb up step by step according to their desires. For these women, men are just their stepping stones. When they first contacted this man, it was because of profit. They all say: "Things gather by like, people are divided by groups." To see what a woman is like, you can tell by looking at the friends around her, because she is not a family, and she does not enter a family, even if she can maintain herself now, but Over time, sooner or later she will become like her friend. For materialism and vanity, they can give everything. The second is cheating for love. In reality, most women cheat, in fact, they cheat for love. When they are not satisfied with the status quo and the love their partner gives them, they will choose to find other men to make up for their empty hearts. But in fact, after a couple gets married, with the increase of time together, as the family chores wear off, the love of both husband and wife will gradually become dull. When at this stage, some women start to look for novelty in other men. Their first behavior is to chat with other people, and then slowly transfer their feelings, thus completely cheating. People often ask the author: Does spiritual infidelity count as infidelity? In the author's opinion, mental infidelity is also considered infidelity, because after spiritual infidelity, physical infidelity is not far away. Especially for women, most of their cheaters first cheated mentally, and then cheated physically. Women are very strange about love. When they fall in love with a person, they often can't let go of other men in their hearts. Just like if a woman cheats, they will especially reject physical contact with her husband. For women, men are just the opposite. Men can often fall in love with many people at the same time. In fact, all these behaviors are instinctive behaviors of animals. Men will fall in love with many women at the same time, because it can increase the probability of reproduction and make their genes more likely to be passed on. And after a woman falls in love with a man, she will instinctively reject another man. It is also driven by instinct, because it is difficult for men to determine whether a woman is carrying their child. This is explained in professional terms, called "paternal uncertainty". Because the paternity is uncertain, women will only choose a man to dispel the doubts of men, because only in this way will a man raise a child. The same is true. When a woman cheats for love, she instinctively rejects her husband's contact. "Can you forgive someone who cheated?" I saw such a question on the Internet a few days ago. Some people say: "I can't forgive, once cheating is wrong, and I can't make up for it in my life." Someone said: "Cheating is disloyalty to marriage. This is the greatest harm to your partner and family, so it cannot be forgiven." Others said: " Whether cheating can be forgiven depends on the reason for cheating. If a slap fails, there will be problems in the marriage, so both parties must be responsible, cheating is never a one-sided problem." But in fact, cheaters always Find reasons for yourself, they have no reason to be forgiven at all. The reasons for cheating are the same for both men and women, because they are not satisfied with the status quo and pursue new and exciting things, especially cheating in marriage. For women, they must know how to be content. There is nothing perfect in the world. If you choose one thing, you will inevitably lose something. It's like "the rich man is diligent, the man without money is poor, the man who can play is not dedicated, the man who is dedicated is too boring, the honest man is incompetent, and the man who is capable is unreliable". There is no perfect man in the world. If a woman insists on pursuing perfection, she will only push herself into a bottomless abyss. ——END Topic of the day: "Do you think it's right?"

(Responsible editor:Working women)

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