The person who is really suitable for you to marry will give you three feelings

time:2022-12-03 00:51:22 source:chloeaktas.com author:A solitary woman
The person who is really suitable for you to marry will give you three feelings

Hello friend! Our meeting was a reunion after a long absence. Click "Follow" above, we will be friends for life! Text: Shili Illustration: From the Internet "What kind of person is suitable for marriage?" Two days ago, I saw such a question on the Internet. Some people say: "People who are suitable for marriage must have suitable three views, otherwise, they will not be happy at all." Some people say: "People who are suitable for marriage must be similar to each other, have things in common, and have similar hobbies. , otherwise, the Tao is different.” Some people say: “The person who is suitable for marriage is the person who is recognized by the parents, because the parents are all experienced people, the object they choose may not be the best, but it must be the best. Appropriate." Although the above statements have certain truths, the facts are very complicated, and people are different, and they must not be judged by the same standard. If you really want to judge whether a person is suitable for marriage, you have to talk about the situation. In fact, the person who is really "suitable for your marriage" will give you three feelings. For people who are really suitable for marriage, the conversation is easy, they can talk casually when they are talking, and they can get along naturally when they are not talking. Psychological research shows that: "In daily chat, if more than 90% of what a person says is nonsense, the person is likely to feel happy; if less than 50% of the nonsense is nonsense, the sense of happiness is not enough." A person who is suitable for marrying you must be I'd love to hear your bullshit. Because no one wants to waste their time listening to other people's nonsense, if there is, then this person is usually a conspiracy, or it is love, or it is because of profit. Why do we always have endless topics to talk about when we first fell in love, even chatting all night long? In fact, it is because when we first fell in love, we had a high tolerance for each other, and the relationship was not stable. Even if the other party was talking nonsense, we could listen to it with relish, because it would allow us to understand each other better and enhance our relationship. After getting married, most couples already know each other very well, and the relationship between the two parties is stable, so the two parties have a choice, and they don't like listening to each other's nonsense, so the two parties don't like to communicate very much. In fact, the real happiness is probably to find a person who you want to say a lot of nonsense to, and he is willing to listen to your nonsense. A truly good relationship never hesitates to share with each other. Just as I am willing to share my inner thoughts for you, I also like to listen to your inner thoughts. Even if they chat for a long time, they will never get bored. In this fast-paced living environment, even if everyone is not very busy, they all want to do things that make them comfortable. If a person can listen to your nonsense quietly, then this person must be suitable for marriage. When chatting, you can chat casually from all over the world, and when you are not chatting, you can treat each other with respect and raise your eyebrows. Even if they don't talk to each other, they will not be embarrassed to get along with each other. For a marriage, knowing how to listen will definitely make each other's feelings better and better. People who are really suitable for marriage will enhance their feelings even if they quarrel. They all say: "In a relationship, the most affecting relationship is quarrel." But in fact, if you know how to deal with conflict, quarrel will not only not affect each other's feelings, but will deepen each other's emotional foundation. The famous American psychologist John Gottman, in his 40 years of research on marital relationships, came to the conclusion: "There will always be various problems in marriage, and 69% of these differences will always exist." Quarrel and conflict itself , is an essential link to promote intimacy. Because in contradictions and conflicts, you will find potential emotional problems and defects in each other. Only when these problems appear completely, can the problems be truly solved and the emotional foundation of each other will be more perfect. Two people will also become more and more compatible in the process of constantly dealing with conflicts and solving problems in this way, and then their feelings for each other will naturally heat up. Those who break up because of quarrels are not actually not in love with each other, but they don't quarrel, they don't resolve conflicts in a proper way, so they add fuel to the fire and make the time worse. They can only see each other's problems in the quarrel, but not their own problems. They are venting their emotions with each other, but they never want to solve the problem in the past, so they stare at each other everywhere to hurt, and their feelings will naturally disappear. getting worse. Knowing how to deal with conflicts and contradictions must be an ability to love. Everyone in a relationship should learn this ability, because it allows us to get married and go on for a long time. People who are really suitable for marriage can make each other better. They all say: "The two most suitable people are those who can make each other a better person." There is a classic line in the movie "Listen to the Side": "Because of you, I am willing to become a better person, I don't want to be your burden, so I work hard just to prove that I am enough to match you." Really The relationship between them will make each other better and better, so that they can climb to the top of the mountain hand in hand and see more beautiful scenery. The same is true in marriage. The most stable marriage is when both parties are well-matched and evenly matched. Although you are very good, I am not bad. The person who is really suitable for marriage must be the person who can make you better, because you become better with each other, and the marriage will be happier. This is what a good relationship is all about, keeping both parties in a positive attitude towards life. In a relationship, if after you are with the other person, you do not get better, but get worse, then it can only mean that you are not suitable for marriage. Even if you marry reluctantly, the future will only get better and better. the worse. Only when two people are constantly growing can they get fit and support from the spiritual, mental, and sense of identity. All encounters in the world have their meaning. If they are suitable, get married, and then become better with each other. If they are not suitable, they will bless each other, and learn from the past, and achieve a better self. ——END Topic of the day: "Do you think it's right?"

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