Between the opposite sex, don't talk about these three topics easily, it's easy to talk about feelings

time:2022-10-02 05:43:37 source:chloeaktas.com author:Single woman
Between the opposite sex, don't talk about these three topics easily, it's easy to talk about feelings

Hello friend! Our meeting was a reunion after a long absence. Click "Follow" above, we will be friends for life! Text: Ten Miles Illustration: Sourced from the Internet "Recently, I had a peach blossom luck, and I was very distressed. There were three girls around me who liked me, and they were very kind and sincere to me, but I didn't feel it was right, and I didn't like any of them. I don't know how to reject them? I've been dragging on and haven't responded, I'm afraid of hurting them. Although their dedication makes me envied by the people around me, I myself feel all trouble and pressure, because in my heart, I already have someone I like." Two days ago, a reader friend sent such a private letter. A person's peach blossom luck is undoubtedly the outbreak of personality charm. This is a good thing. If you use it well, it will not be difficult to find your own love. If it is not resolved well, it will only hurt others and himself. Just like this friend, he is afraid that his rejection will hurt the other party. But as everyone knows, he has been dragging on and not replying, and then he will really hurt the other party and make the other party more painful in the future. For a woman, the more they pay attention to a man, the more they will be inseparable from that man in the future. For this friend, what he should do now is not to delay and not reply, but to explain the truth directly, and then reject the other party's show of love, because now the other party has paid very little and can let go. The way to really not hurt the other party is often to completely let the other party stop thinking when the other party's thoughts begin. Only a complete separation can stop a relationship from forming. In reality, people often ask me, how can I stop a woman from liking me? Seeing this, you may not understand why someone can ask such a question. But in fact, the joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same. Some people are distressed that they can't find a girlfriend, while others are distressed that there are too many people who like them. In fact, for those who are distressed, they can save a lot of trouble for themselves by paying attention to the way they chat. Between the opposite sex, don't talk about these three topics easily, it's easy to talk about feelings between the opposite sex, don't talk about your hometown easily. The beginning of a relationship is often the beginning of contact, and there is a common connection point, and hometown is often the connection point of feelings. For the opposite sex, don't talk about your hometown easily, it's really easy to talk about feelings. When talking to strangers about their hometown, it often increases their curiosity. When you talk about your hometown, the other party will have great curiosity about local customs, local environmental culture, local life and food, etc. When the other person finds satisfaction in these curiosity, he will become interested in the life around you, and thus become interested in you. Just like that sentence: "When one person is curious about another person, it means the beginning of the fall." When talking about hometown with fellow villagers in a foreign land, it will increase mutual goodwill. One of the four great joys in life is called "meeting old friends in a foreign land." Homesickness is an eternal topic in culture. "The dew is white from tonight, and the moon is the bright light of the hometown." We always have a special feeling for our hometown. On the basis of this feeling, it is easy for us to have an inexplicable affection for another person. Driven by this good feeling, if you talk about your hometown, it is easier to enhance each other's feelings. When a person recognizes you, the other person can accept you whatever you say. And when a person doesn't recognize you and rejects you, the other person can't hear what you say. This is like a quarrel between a husband and wife. It is obvious that everything the man says must be reasonable, and it all comes to the point of the matter. But the woman couldn't hear it at all, scolding men everywhere, picking on the pain points of men, and then letting the conflict between the two sides end, unable to communicate at a deeper level. That is, prejudice prevents you from loving others. A person's first impression of a person is often the key. If the first impression is not good, then the effort will be multiplied, and if the first impression is good, then the effort will be multiplied. If you don't want the other person to like you, then don't talk about your hometown easily. Between the opposite sex, don't be frank with each other easily. Perhaps in the eyes of many people, only by showing their advantages as much as possible can they be liked and admired by others. But in fact, if you only show your own strengths blindly, it will make the other party discouraged and dare not step forward. Blindly showing their own good, often not easy to gain the trust of the other party. Because the other party will feel that all this is unreal, and you are hiding something from him. And if you can properly reveal your shortcomings and show your truest self, you will be more likely to impress the other party, because the other party can feel your truth and your frankness. For example, a person who speaks out about his own shortcomings will be recognized by others. In interpersonal relationships, the most favorable quality of each other is sincerity. There is an American psychologist, Dr. Arthur Aron, who wrote a paper "The Generation of Interpersonal Intimacy: Experimental Procedures and Some Preliminary Findings". In the paper, he recruited some strangers to participate in the experiment, and these people sat together in pairs. Within 45 minutes, have them ask each other and answer the 36 real questions and ask them to be honest with each other. The results of the experiment found that 30% of the people who participated in the experiment, after talking about 36 questions, said that their relationship with the people who participated in the experiment has exceeded any period in their life with other people; after a period of time, 37% The experimenters sat together during the class; 35% of the experimenters started dating after the question and answer session. Another pair of experimenters, who got married six months later, invited everyone involved in the experiment to their wedding. Experiments have found that people's intimacy generally increases after being honest with each other for a period of time. How much a person exposes himself in a relationship often makes the other person closer to him. The other party tells you privacy and secrets, you can judge the other party's level of trust in you. The more a person trusts you and the less he minds you knowing his privacy and secrets, the more he will make you trust him. Why can we talk emotionally with strangers? It is because it is easier to express one's feelings with strangers, and there is no need to be laughed at, despised by others, etc., so the more you say it, the more truthful you are. And being honest is often easier to impress. If you don't want to connect with a woman, then definitely don't be honest with her. Between the opposite sex, don't talk about each other's hobbies. Chatting, only by doing what you like can really open up the topic and let the other party chat easily. Those who always talk about each other's hobbies and hobbies, and who always guide each other to chat, are more likely to get the other party's favor. Because talking about what you are good at must be the most relaxing topic, when a person relaxes, it is easier to accept the other person. When you chat freely, you can better express your true feelings, show your true self, and naturally get recognized more easily. An unfamiliar soul who knows nothing about your past, you show your carefully selected language style to your heart's content, and consider each other everywhere to express your unique style, and so does the other party, such a perfect dialogue, It's weird not to have good feelings and interests. The more they know you, the more they will be interested in you. A man who is always good at listening to women's speech is easy to be liked by women, because women will think that you are respectful and polite, so they have a good impression of you and choose to open their hearts. In a relationship, if a man doesn’t want to be liked by a woman, he will keep talking about himself, brag about himself, and talk about himself. Just interrupt her and teach her the right rules of life the way your parents teach you. ——END Topic of the day: "Are you bothered by this problem?"

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