Whether the wife is good or not, you can see by the husband

time:2022-10-02 05:21:43 source:chloeaktas.com author:Housewife
Whether the wife is good or not, you can see by the husband

Hello friend! Our meeting was a reunion after a long absence. Click "Follow" above, we will be friends for life! Text: Shili Illustration: From the Internet "After 11 years of marriage, I want to get a divorce. I worked hard to earn money outside, and I didn't let her work a day's work, but she didn't understand me at all. It annoys me very much. I haven't treated her badly over the years. I pay her home on time every month. She just does housework, takes care of a child, and takes care of the elderly. What else is there to be unsatisfied with? A yellow-faced woman like her has What qualifications can I complain about? She is far worse than my friend's wife, and now I have no tolerance for her, I want to know how to get her out of the house." Yesterday, a netizen sent such a private letter . Seeing this private letter, the author sighed and saw the content of this letter, which may be shocking to many people, but in reality, such things abound. After a man is successful and has a little capital, he dislikes his wife and wants to let the other party go out of the house. This is the reality. These men are often selfish and disrespect women's efforts. They always complain that their women are inferior to other women, but they don't know that they are much worse than other men. They never knew that their wife would become what she is now, and it was all caused by them. They all say: "There is a good husband before a good wife." In fact, whether the wife is good or not, you can tell by looking at the husband that a sloppy and unfeeling woman often has a husband who does nothing. In reality, there are often men complaining that their wives are sloppy, strong, and sloppy, and some people even say that they resist and don't want to approach. But in fact, all women in the world love beauty. Their images are sloppy and they don't pay attention to their images. Almost all of them are forced by life. If a person's life is a problem, they naturally don't care about other things. Life is not only about poetry and distant places, but also the hustle and bustle in front of you. Sometimes it's not that a woman doesn't want to be romantic and beautiful, but she simply doesn't have a choice. Just like the love between Shen Congwen and Zhang Zhaohe. Perhaps everyone knows the genius Shen Congwen who "I have traveled many bridges and seen clouds many times, but only loved one person". But Zhang Zhaohe, who Ye Shengtao said, "The four talented women of the Zhang family in Jiuruxiang, whoever marries them will be happy for a lifetime", is rarely known. At that time, the marriage of Shen Congwen and Zhang Zhaohe was not favored by others. Because the door was not right and the household was not right, at that time Shen Congwen was just a teacher, while Zhang Zhaohe came from a famous family and had many suitors. But even so, Zhang Zhaohe chose to marry Shen Congwen, who had nothing. Zhang Zhaohe was originally a young lady who did not touch the spring water with ten fingers, and was used to living a life of fine clothes and jade food. After marrying Shen Congwen, she had to "turn from extravagance to frugality" and assumed the role of taking care of the family. After giving birth, the heavy housework left her with no time to take care of her image, so she cut off a long hair. In this regard, Shen Congwen blamed her instead. He blindly asked Zhang Zhaohe to grow his long hair again, wear high heels, and dress himself up, but he couldn't sympathize with her lack of skills, and it didn't help her in any way. At that time, Zhang Zhaohe wrote angrily to Shen Congwen: "You are not allowed to force me to wear high heels and perm my hair, and you are not allowed to stop asking me to wash or do things because you are afraid that I will roughen my hands, and it doesn't matter what I eat. Whether it is good or bad, it doesn't matter what you wear, it is good fortune to live." It was also under these tedious trivial matters that Shen Congwen became more and more disgusted with Zhang Zhaohe, so he chose to cheat. In fact, for Shen Congwen, he never really loved Zhang Zhaohe at all. What he loves is only the Miss Zhang family who fits his perfect fantasy object. When the Miss Zhang family became his wife, he also lost those of him. The basis of fantasy. When his wife became different from his expectations, he disliked his wife's changes everywhere, but he did not know that all the changes in his wife were caused by him. If he had done something for the family and could help his wife share the pain of life, her wife would not be like this. Because everyone wants to live a beautiful and easy life, if there is a choice, who wants to live a hard life. A woman who likes to complain often has a husband who snubs her. Someone said, "The saddest thing in marriage is not not being loved, but mistaking neglect and neglect as love." In reality, men often complain that their wives are resentful, and they only make trouble every day. But in fact, most of the resentment women are caused by their husbands. Because the husband has been neglected and neglected for a long time, and because the man has always been disrespectful, it has led to a huge change in the woman. These men tend to focus on their careers and spend their whole time outside. They don't care about their wives at all, thinking that their wives are just a nanny who takes care of the family. If they take the money and go home, they have already fulfilled their greatest obligations, so they can feel at ease. enjoy everything. But in fact, the family has never been the obligation and responsibility of a woman alone, the family is both parties. It is not easy for women to take care of the family. They not only need to do housework and cook, but also take care of the elderly and children at home. All these things add up, but it is much more difficult for them to earn money outside. They choose to be housewives, not because they are afraid of hardship or fatigue, but just to let the family share the heavy responsibilities and make the family live better. When they gave everything, but did not get the understanding and return of the man, they would burst out of their emotions. So they will start complaining to men, or even lose their temper. They will do this, in fact, the inner child is expressing: "I feel very sad and helpless now, please hug me." And when their emotional needs, If they are not seen by men, and if men do not appease them but treat them indifferently, they will become more and more resentful, or even be riddled with negative emotions. They all say: "True love is not about mutual support, but about mutual fulfillment." In a relationship, if only a woman fulfills unilaterally, then this relationship is bound to have big problems. When a woman's needs are not seen by a man for a long time, the woman will be completely disappointed, completely lose her thoughts about that man, and then give up on herself to destroy the relationship. Because the party who pays more will also demand a return of equal value. When this return is not available, they will feel wronged and worthless. Because the essence of love is an exchange of "feelings", while the essence of marriage is an exchange of "values". The basis for determining whether a marriage can be long-term is whether two people can continue to provide each other with "value". A woman's sad face and complaints are not unreasonable, but she needs a man's comfort and love, and a man needs to understand all of this. Women are not superhumans, they also need the care and help of men. When a man sees a woman's complaint, please be sure to love and care for that woman, because she really can't take it anymore. When men can see the needs of women and are willing to stand with women through thick and thin, and face them together, then women will only get better and better. Whether a woman is doing well or not can actually be known from her husband, because the quality of her husband can often determine the well-being of a woman. Men need to learn to reflect on themselves, no one wants to be a resentful woman, and no one wants to become the person they hate. For women, when you see your needs, you have the energy to support you to express your emotions. You need to speak out about your needs and bravely say "no" to all unreasonable demands. Only in this way will you be able to see your true self and gain the dominance of the marriage relationship. ——END Topic of the day: "Do you think it's right?"

(Responsible editor:Single woman)

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