When people reach middle age, it is better to change their way of life

time:2022-10-02 05:34:32 source:chloeaktas.com author:Graduate girl
When people reach middle age, it is better to change their way of life

Hello friend! Our meeting was a reunion after a long absence. Click "Follow" above, we will be friends for life! Text: Shili "When I am middle-aged, I feel that I can't bear it anymore. The pressure of life and family is forcing me to breathe. In order to make a better life for my family, I work hard to climb up, wake up early and stay up late every day. Working overtime has made the family have a good life. But all this is not understood by my wife, who always complains that I don't care about the family or the children. She really doesn't know what to do. I obviously took the money home, but she doesn't care about it. I’m not satisfied, it’s really hard for me, and now I’m very anxious, plus I often have headaches and other reasons, and my life is very tormented, what should I do to make them satisfied?” Reader friend sent such a private letter. When I saw this private letter, I felt a lot in my heart. When a man reaches middle age, after he takes the money and goes home, he doesn't care about everything in the family. Does this count as fulfilling all his responsibilities and obligations? The answer must be no. If a man just takes money home, he is actually fulfilling his most basic obligation. Just as there are many women who not only have to take care of the family, take care of the elderly and children, but also need to earn money outside, you say that they have fulfilled their responsibilities compared to men. The family is owned by both husband and wife. For the family, both husband and wife have responsibilities. This is never just the responsibility and obligation of women. For this friend, the only way to change the status quo is to change the way of living. The way people live in middle age is to pay attention to the body. When a person reaches middle age, it is often the time when a family is under the greatest pressure, because at this time the family has to support the elderly and the children, and the whole family needs to bear it by themselves. Therefore, at this time, many people are under great pressure. They can only choose to overdraw their bodies to exchange money, and just want to make their family life better. Although their original intentions are good, they don't understand that their behavior will not only not make the family better, but will bring a greater crisis to the family. Because man is not a machine after all, and he can't hold it for long. If he always overdraws his body and tries his best, he will fall down sooner or later, and then he will never be able to get up again. When the backbone of the family falls, the family is doomed, and the burden on the family will only increase. In reality, many young people who die suddenly from entrepreneurship are thinking of fighting hard for a young age and earning more money to make their families better, but the final result is that they not only lose themselves, but also make no money. , and then let wives, children, widows and mothers live a hard life alone, do you think it's really worth it? When a person reaches middle age, the most important thing is to have a healthy body. After all, the body is the capital of the revolution. You can continue to earn money when you run out of money. For most ordinary people, maintaining good health is actually the most efficient way to manage money. Because the data shows: "60% of people will use 60% of their savings for the last 28 days of their lives". If you can keep your body healthy, you are really earning. The way to live in middle age is to spend more time with your family. When a person reaches middle age, it is the key to decompress properly, put aside work, and put the relationship between husband and wife first in interpersonal relationships. In a family, only when the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious, other relationships will become better. No matter how much money a person earns, it is not as good as a harmonious and happy family. Your family is your most precious wealth. In reality, many people do not actually understand what kind of life their families want most. It's like those men who focus on career and making money. They never understand that what their wives need most is his company. Most of the time their efforts are actually just self-righteousness. For example, our parents are kind to us. They always say to themselves, "Everything I do is for your own good, so you can only accept and be grateful, otherwise you will not know what is good or bad." However, we don't know what they paid for. It is not necessary, and even their efforts will cause trouble and burden to us. We have to see the emotional needs of our family members, and then do our best to give what the other person needs, instead of being self-righteous all the time. If the other party does not need to pay, then this is not called giving, but forced. Many men think that as long as they can earn money and take it home, they don't need to do anything, because they have already done their utmost responsibility to their family and they have done their duty. At this time, if the wife has any complaints, it is that the wife is unreasonable and does not understand satisfaction. But in fact, men only do this step, and it is not enough. A family belongs to a husband and wife. Housework at home has never been a woman's obligation or responsibility. A woman is not born to do housework, she just pays for the family and chooses to take care of the family. For men, they should also understand the difficulties of their wives. If they can participate in family affairs, they should participate more, because such behavior will definitely make the relationship between husband and wife better. The way to live in middle age is to learn to accept. There are many things in life that can't be changed. Just like how ordinary you are, even if you deceive yourself, you will not turn ordinary yourself into a genius. When we reach middle age, we have to learn to accept everything. Instead of tossing in complaints and self-doubts, it is better to accept everything calmly. You need to accept your child's ordinary. Just like ordinary you, it is difficult to give birth to a genius son, you do not need to force ordinary sons to become geniuses, and then earn face for you, so as to force and control the growth of children. Because it doesn't do anything at all other than hurt and destroy the child. You need to accept the vexatiousness of your parents. When parents get old, when their body functions degenerate, it will lead to various unforeseen complications. Some start to talk nonsense, some can't take care of themselves, and some cause you trouble everywhere. When you face all this, don't get angry, because as far as parents are concerned, they are also very self-blaming and don't want to cause you trouble, they just can't control themselves. You have no choice but to accept and take good care of them. Just as when you were a child, your parents took care of you who couldn't take care of yourself. They didn't have any complaints at that time, and now you should accept it calmly. You should accept your partner. Perhaps as you get older, your partner has become grumpy, aged, and no longer the beauty of youth and youth. You also have to accept it, because just as he didn't pick on you at the beginning, you are not qualified to pick on each other now. Since you choose, you have to live forever. Knowing contentment is the key to a happy marriage. After all, there are many people who don't even have a partner. ——END

(Responsible editor:Housewife)

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