The three major manifestations of women's "promising", how many have you won?

time:2022-12-03 00:03:19 source:chloeaktas.com author:Divorced women
The three major manifestations of women's "promising", how many have you won?

Hello friend! Our meeting was a reunion after a long absence. Click "Follow" above, we will be friends for life! Text: Ten Miles Illustration: From the Internet "I have been in a relationship with a scumbag for three years. I always knew that he was a scumbag, and I also knew that he could not take care of me. My friends also told me to stop losses in time, but I still Looking for excuses to deceive myself and others, and still maintain this relationship, am I very unpromising?" Two days ago, a reader friend sent such a private message. When I saw this private letter, I felt the same way. Because people in love are so irrational. I clearly found out that he was a scumbag, but I couldn't let go. I knew he didn't love me, but I still insisted on giving. I knew he was just taking advantage of me, but I was still like a moth to the fire. Many times, it's not that we don't understand love, but that we don't want to let go of that person, we just want to stay with him, that's all. As far as love is concerned, many things are unclear and unclear. In reality, people often ask me, "What are the signs of a woman being unpromising?" Actually, there are three major signs of a woman being unpromising. How many have you won? If you don't forget about the scumbag, it's just useless. Promising women dare to love and hate, while unpromising women can't let go of scumbags. A woman, who clearly knows that the other party is a scumbag, but she has to fight the fire and kill herself, is just useless. Many people say: "They are fans of the authorities, and bystanders are clear, but they don't see it through themselves." But they don't know that they didn't see it through themselves, but they just pretended to fall asleep and didn't want to wake up. Many women think that they can't let go because they love that scumbag so much. But everyone knows that the reason why most women can't let go of scumbags is not because of love, but these two reasons. The first reason is narcissism. They do not allow themselves to make mistakes and do not want others to see jokes, so in order to maintain the image that they are all right, they will show others this wrong relationship. And convey this to others: "You see we have a good relationship, I didn't choose the wrong person." Even if the man is caught by the scumbag's behavior, they will find various reasons and excuses to lie, so Self-deception. This unhealthy relationship will not only make them more humble, but also make them more miserable, they will not only suffer from the hurt from men, but also fall into self-doubt. The second reason is reluctance, because almost all scumbags will lead women to pay for them, and the more women pay, the more they can't leave. Even if one day a woman finds out that the man is a scumbag and is just playing with her feelings, it will be difficult for her to end the relationship, because she is reluctant to give up what she has done to a man, and people will hate losses, so they don't want to let those efforts pay off Flow, they will maintain the relationship painfully. What they don't understand is that even if they maintain this relationship, those who have paid in the past will not be able to return, those are "sunk costs", and their current persistence will only make them lose more. A woman who can only complain and will not change is not promising. In reality, there are many women who are obviously unhappy in their marriages and suffer from various injuries from men. But they only complained without any change. Friends advised her to leave, but she pretended not to care, pretending that everything was for the children. But as everyone knows, the main purpose of their reluctance to leave is not for their children, but because they are afraid of facing life alone. They are used to this kind of life and dare not step out of their comfort zone. In their hearts, they actually want to change, but when they think of the pain and experience of change, they back away. When a person gets used to a kind of life for a long time, even if this kind of life makes them very unsatisfactory, most people will only choose to make it, rather than change. They are always complaining about their bad life and their suffering, but they never try their best to change everything. They are small-minded and narrow-minded, only jealous of women who are better than them, and are unwilling to admit the excellence of others. A woman who only thinks about relying on a man is useless. Promising women always think of relying on themselves, and unpromising women always think of relying on men. As the saying goes: "If a woman is born well, it is better to marry well." These words have influenced many women and made many women regard marriage as the only choice to change their lives. For a woman, if she thinks that only marriage can change her destiny, then this woman's life is not destined to be very good. Because when a woman puts all her hopes on a man, she becomes very humble. Because she lives completely dependent on that man, she naturally has no right to speak. It's okay for that man to love her deeply, and he can naturally accept everything about her, but if that man doesn't love her any more one day, he will naturally resent everything about her, and even do some things that are sorry for her. Because in the eyes of this man, this woman cannot be separated from him at all, so he becomes more reckless. In the face of all this, a woman has no other way but to suffer herself, because she really can't live without this man, she can only live by this man. They all say: "Mountains will fall, and everyone will run." A promising woman can live well by herself, but a woman who is unpromising can't live alone. Women who are truly married actually know how to rely on themselves. They can not only achieve personal independence, but also financial independence. Even if they leave men, they can live happily, and men will naturally pay more attention to their relationship with each other. For women, only when they have the confidence can they have the right to speak and respect, otherwise, they can only act according to the man's face. ——END Today's topic: "Are there many women like this?"

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