When a woman completely ends a relationship, it's not about deleting it, but like this

time:2022-10-02 04:04:11 source:chloeaktas.com author:Girl
When a woman completely ends a relationship, it's not about deleting it, but like this

Hello friend! Our meeting was a reunion after a long absence. Click "Follow" above, we will be friends for life! Text: Shili Illustration: From the Internet "What does it look like to really let go of a person?" A few days ago, I saw such a question on the Internet. Some people say: "To truly let go of a person is to block and delete the other person and completely cut off all contact." Don't break the river." Others said: "To really end a relationship completely is to keep a silent distance, and then never see each other again, everyone is tacit, everyone gets together and leaves, and leave good thoughts for each other. .” Although these answers are reasonable, the author does not fully agree, some people are not really letting go at all, but just a temporary escape. They never let go, and once they meet again, everything comes back. For women only, to end a relationship completely is not to block and delete it, but this. When a woman ends a relationship completely, she lets herself go. A woman's blacklisting and deletion has never really been letting go, it's just a means of escaping. Because I was afraid that I would think of the other party, I blocked and deleted it. I chose this method because I was afraid that I would take the initiative to contact the other party. Although this method seems to be very effective, it is actually meaningless, and it will make women even more difficult to let go. The real letting go is not letting go of the other person, but letting go of yourself. Some people say that the real letting go is to forgive, and then shake hands to make peace. Even if it is destined to be separated, I wish you a bright future and complete happiness in the future. But in fact, the real letting go is never asking you to forgive those who have hurt you. As Angela Chang said: "I never thank those who hurt me, they just let me know not to be that kind of person." We are not saints, we cannot forgive those who have hurt us from the bottom of our hearts, we do not retaliate, it is our greatest kindness. All we can do is live and be stronger and not give anyone the chance to hurt me. When you are strong enough, you will naturally let go of everything, even if you are facing each other, you can be calm, just like facing a stranger. Even if his contact information is still in your list, you will no longer contact him. He is just a passer-by in your life journey. Just like some people in our mobile phones, we used to be the best friends and the best lovers, but the reality has changed and we haven't been in touch for a long time, and there are only a bunch of basic contact information left. For these people, we did not delete and no longer contact them because they are a thing of the past. If you don't delete it, it's a good memory and retention of the past; if you don't contact it, it's because we really can't go back. When a woman completely ends a relationship, she leaves decisively. They all say: "Young people's breakups are often noisy and regretful." And the way adults end a relationship is not quarrel and collapse, but a silent alienation. Because they have thoroughly understood that the two sides are not suitable, this breakup is also the result of careful consideration. When a woman completely ends a relationship, she leaves the man decisively. Even if the man did anything wrong to her, she would not ask for the reason, because she was completely disappointed, and it was not important to her whether she knew the reason or not. When a woman stops fantasizing and expecting anything about him, she truly lets go. Only women who can't let go of men will chatter about men. As Mu Xin said, "If you ask someone a question, if he doesn't answer what he asked, he has answered it, and there is no need to ask any more." In fact, for a woman, to end a relationship completely is to leave tacitly. At this time, women will not say a word to men. A woman's patience and clinging are only based on the fact that she loves a person. If she doesn't love another person, she won't be speculating. For women, in the face of emotional misfortune, they should learn to let go. Whether it is good or bad, it is the gift of life. It is good to be grateful to meet. Just like that sentence: "The most regretful thing in my life is meeting you, and the happiest thing in my life is meeting you." People's life has always been full of entanglements, there is no absolute right, nor Absolutely wrong, it's just how we think about it right now. In fact, love is like a mirror. If it is broken, it will be broken. A mirror with residue on the ground will only hurt itself. Your best bet is to pack up and throw away. I have heard such a story: a woman asked the Zen master. She said, "I love him so much, what should I do if I can't let go?" The Zen master said, "There is nothing in the world that cannot be let go." She said, "But I just can't let it go." Then, the Zen master asked her to hold a cup , and then pour hot water into the cup until the hot water is full. The woman was scalded and immediately released her hand. The Zen master said that there is nothing in this world that cannot be let go. In fact, it doesn't take three or five months or three or five years to let go of a person. When you really let go of a person, it is when you are no longer fantasizing or looking forward to it. When you figure it out and still love life, everything will be let go. For women, when you learn to love life and love yourself, you are worthy of being loved. There is such a passage in "Dear Sanmao": "Please, take responsibility for yourself, not only to live, but also to live enthusiastically and vigorously, not to be cowardly, and not to be guided by too many people. One day, if you live a solid life, do your own work, and do your best to the best of your ability, you will be worthy of the world." Women should stop caring about him, try to shift their focus from "others" to themselves, and take good care of them. Take care of your own emotions, pay attention to your own feelings, and resolutely defend yourself without infringing on others. ——END Topic of the day: "Have you put it down?"

(Responsible editor:A solitary woman)

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