The daughter asked why the 160,000 betrothal gift was not allowed to be brought back. Mother: In the future, we will rely on our son for the elderly

time:2022-12-03 00:57:11 source:chloeaktas.com author:Housewife
The daughter asked why the 160,000 betrothal gift was not allowed to be brought back. Mother: In the future, we will rely on our son for the elderly

Marriage is a family formed by two people who love each other coming together, but before that, there were also families behind them. In my own small family, due to the different three views and living habits, it will only lead to constant conflicts in the end. Smart couples, when encountering problems, will not fight against each other, but will look at the problem from the perspective of the other party, and will not impose all kinds of unreasonable requirements brought by the original family on the other half, because they carry Only after knowing the priority of the original family and the small family, and having their own opinions, will not blindly obey the parents' words, and will not be coerced by family affection and filial piety, so that the harmony and stability of the small family can be maintained. Wang Hao and Xu Lin met in college. The two were in the same club, and they became acquainted with each other after visiting each other. Later, they came together and their relationship has always been very good. Staying in the same city to work hard for the future, until the job is stable, the two begin to talk about marriage. It's just that if you want to get married, you have to talk about the dowry and the house. Unexpectedly, the woman's family did not ask to buy a house, but proposed a dowry of 160,000, saying that it was a high dowry, and then they would have face, for the sake of Although Wang Hao's parents felt a little pressure about their son's marriage, they agreed. After getting married, Wang Hao didn't know that Xu Lin didn't bring back the dowry, and even the dowry was just a few quilts. The wife didn't expect her parents to do this, and she didn't know how to face her husband for a while. Fortunately, Wang Hao Although I was dissatisfied, I didn't care too much. Instead, I said that you should be filial to your parents. After all, it is not easy for them to raise you. After hearing this, Xu Lin also decided not to ask her parents about the dowry, but she would not let her family of origin affect her small family. But in the days to come, her parents frequently asked her husband for help, most of the time. It's about financial help. Every time I encounter these things, Xu Lin always stands in front of them. If it's a small amount of money, she can help, but she will refuse if she asks too much. Over the years, she and her parents have The relationship became more and more stalemate, and she really couldn't figure out why she really became a guest at her parents' house after she got married, and her parents demanded more from her. Three years passed in a blink of an eye. That day, the mother passed over her again and called Wang Hao directly, saying that her younger son was getting married, and that he hoped that his brother-in-law could help his brother-in-law buy a car. After Xu Lin learned about this, she was furious. He went back to his mother's house and asked his mother directly: "My brother wants to get married?" Why do you want my family to buy a car? But the mother replied: You are his sister, isn't it a matter of course for you to buy a car for your brother? After hearing this, Xu Lin was completely angry, and immediately said, "You didn't even let me take back a cent of the betrothal gift. Have you ever thought about my situation and feelings at my husband's house?" Would you mind asking me to help now? The mother's voice suddenly became much quieter, but she still said: A married daughter is the water thrown out, and you must rely on your son for the old age. Besides, after you get married, your mind will be on your own little family. Of course, we have to do well. plan. Her mother's words deeply hurt Xu Lin's heart, and she immediately understood that her parents no longer regarded her as a family member after marriage, and then she replied coldly: OK, then please don't bother your family in the future. On my husband. After speaking, she turned around and left. From now on, she just wants to maintain her family. As for her family's side, she can only do her best, but she can't do her best. If you want to maintain a good marriage, you cannot let the original family get involved too much. Both men and women need to avoid the influence of their own families on the small family. For example, the husband should properly handle the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and prevent the mother from being the master of the house and the wife. To deal with the consequences of parents' injustice, and face all kinds of unreasonable demands, they must dare to refuse, in order to maintain the harmony of the small family. Marriage is a long process. With the passage of time, various conflicts and problems will emerge in an endless stream, such as family conflicts, husband and wife problems, parent-child relationship, work pressure and life chores, etc., which will affect the stability of a marriage. It takes two people to work together and support each other to run the family well. #emotion##emotional office##marriage#

(Responsible editor:A solitary woman)

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