Older leftover women complain that they don't ask to buy a house or a car, blind date or failure? Best friend: lower the standard first

time:2022-12-03 00:05:43 source:chloeaktas.com author:Divorced women
Older leftover women complain that they don't ask to buy a house or a car, blind date or failure? Best friend: lower the standard first

Beautiful love is hard to come by, everyone is eager to meet the right person, but the world of feelings is very complicated, some people always miss it, some people can't find it, and some people don't. Know how to cherish, so that after the marriageable age is still alone. Some people say that marriage is the second life for a woman. Only by marrying the right person can you be happy after marriage, but everyone has their own personality and views on marriage and love, and their attitudes towards relationships are also different. For example, some people advocate Love comes first and marriage is free, but some people think that men and women are equal, women don’t need to rely on men, they can rely on themselves, and some people are too high-minded, regard marriage as a transaction, hook their feelings and interests, and delusionally use Marriage to achieve a high quality of life, so that he boiled himself into a leftover fighter. Xinya is now 34 years old. In the eyes of others, she is a proper old leftover daughter. Her parents are also anxious when they see her. Ya's attitude towards marriage has also been changing. As early as in college, she was surrounded by many opposite sexes. At that time, she focused on her studies and rejected the opposite sex again and again. Later, after graduation, she relied on her own efforts to find a job with good prospects. Moreover, the salary is high and the benefits are good, so she spent all her energy and time on her career, and once again chose to refuse the pursuit of the people around her. It's not that Xinya doesn't want to fall in love, but she just thinks that she is too good, and people who are similar to her are no longer worthy of her, and she has a successful career, and she doesn't need to rely on a man to live, so she can live a good life by herself, If I get married, I am afraid that I will have to revolve around the family in the future, and I have to deal with the complicated relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. How can I have the freedom and ease of life now. As for the major events in her life, she kept putting it off, and in the blink of an eye, she turned herself into an older, leftover girl, and she felt the biggest change was that every time she went out with her friends, everyone else was dragging their family along with their mouths, in pairs, on the other hand. She was always alone, perhaps because she was old, and years of hard work made her long for a home, so she accepted the advice of her parents and started a blind date. But the blind date process was not smooth. The man was either in poor condition or not good in appearance. Occasionally, he had a good family, but he despised her age. What made Xinya even more dissatisfied was that she was once paid only 4,000 yuan a month. The blind date man of her had disliked her and said that she was too professional, and she was afraid that she would not care about her family after marrying him. If she wanted to marry him, she had to be prepared to give up her job and be a full-time wife at home. Naturally, Xinya could not give up her hard work for so many years. As a result, the number of blind dates became more and more, and she no longer had expectations for love. Xinya had to complain to her best friend that there are fewer and fewer good men in society nowadays, and she may be getting old alone. After listening to her complaint, her best friend asked about her criteria for choosing a mate. Xinya replied, "Actually, I My requirements are not high. As a man, my salary must be higher than mine, and I have to be able to take care of my family. After all, I am very professional, and I will definitely not be able to do housework at that time. As for my height, I must be over 1.8 meters and look good. More points, this is all for the sake of children, and I have some savings over the years, so I don't ask to buy a house or a car, why can't I find someone who can get married. After hearing this, her best friend was stunned, so she persuaded bitterly: You are not too demanding. There is no perfect man in this world. Even if there is, it is impossible to wait until now before getting married. You still listen to me and lower it appropriately. Standard, don't be too quick, and don't be too demanding, otherwise, depending on your age, it will be more and more difficult to drag on. After listening to her best friend's words, Xinya also reflected on it for a long time. Maybe it was because she had the feeling of being admired by many stars, which made her always have a self-confidence, but she ignored that the age of a woman was also a disadvantage. When she came to find a partner, I was afraid that it would be difficult to find a suitable one. In the end, she chose to compromise, and it would be considered a success in holding hands soon after. The other party’s conditions were similar to her own.

(Responsible editor:A solitary woman)

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