After a man's betrayal, it is wise for a woman to do the following three things

time:2023-01-30 06:14:19 source:chloeaktas.com author:Girl
After a man's betrayal, it is wise for a woman to do the following three things

Text / Ye Feifei yff picture / From the Internet I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional tutor, who writes heartfelt emotional words, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort. In marriage, once a woman finds out that a man has betrayed, it is best to take measures in time to seize the initiative in the marriage as quickly as possible. After all, men after betrayal are all virtues, and they will not take the initiative to admit their mistakes at all, but will continue to consume you. At this time, you don't need to make a big noise with him, but you must take the initiative as soon as possible, and deal with some things as soon as possible, in order to avoid being continuously hurt by men. In fact, women have experienced betrayal, and only by completely accepting men and avoiding consuming themselves can they have more dignity. Divorce, although it can relieve you of temporary pain, is not the best solution. There is still a long way to go in the future. Why should you bear everything and let the man and his lover continue to be happy? Therefore, women should not be too stupid, and don't give up the happiness that they have managed for many years, it is not worth it. From a realistic point of view, women in marriage have too many involvements. In the face of the man they once loved and the growing child, who can freely say let go and let go? Therefore, women should try their best to save their marriages unless they have to. As long as men sincerely return to their families, there may be a chance of life in the future, and happiness can still be expected. After all, it is wise for a woman to do the following three things after experiencing the betrayal of a man.

I. Stay or go? Women weigh the pros and cons first

In marriage, if a man betrays you, a woman should calm herself down first, and then weigh the pros and cons. In the end is to stay, or to end the marriage cruelly? Women must fully consider and find the answer as soon as possible. On the one hand, in the process of thinking, women can realize their weight in marriage, so as to avoid making wrong decisions. On the other hand, it also gives the man a certain amount of time to resolve the relationship outside, which will help the man return to the family. In fact, most women do not want to leave immediately after a man's betrayal, and still want to test the man's attitude. They can't let go, and they can't be ruthless, because they have these concerns: for example, they don't have the ability to live independently; the children are still young, and they leave like this when they are uneasy; they are afraid of being gossiped by others. Or, women pay too much in marriage, and they just walk away unwillingly, so why should men be cheap? After all, no matter what a woman is worried about, since she can't let it go, it means she still wants to continue this marriage. Then, you must fully consider your own situation. If you divorce rashly, what kind of situation may you fall into and what are the disadvantages to yourself. At the same time, you should also consider, if you choose to forgive a man, what are the benefits to yourself? In fact, at this time, women might as well be realistic. Since the man has betrayed, the facts already exist, and there is no need to suffer for this matter. What you need is that a man can continue to pay for you, can protect your life, and let you and your children not worry about life. Many times, money is the root of all suffering. This is not chicken soup, but reality. When you think about these things in a comprehensive way, you will have a clearer plan, whether to forgive a man or not? In short, weigh the pros and cons, and based on the actual situation, I believe you will make a decision that is beneficial to yourself.

Second, you can forgive a man, but you must have a bottom line

In reality, some women find that a man betrayed, they can’t stand the man’s sweet words, and they forgive easily . Moreover, some men pretend to be very guilty and act very well in order to get a woman's forgiveness. For example, they kneel to women, weep bitterly, and swear that they will not betray them in the future. Most women are very soft-hearted. Seeing the man's remorse, they feel very pitiful, so they choose to forgive. In the end, the man settled down for a while, and then started to go out to mess around with flowers, and he didn't really take it all in. At this time, the woman experienced the second betrayal before she realized that all the previous performances by the man were fake, but it was too late. Therefore, when a woman forgives a man, she must have a bottom line, and don't be too soft-hearted. In fact, after experiencing betrayal, even if a woman desires to continue the marriage in her heart, she should not show it. When you see a man performing all kinds of excuses, you have to be calm, so that you can't understand what you're thinking. The more mysterious and calm you are, the more flustered the man will be. He can't see through you, so he won't dare to hurt you. So, where is the bottom line of a woman's forgiveness? In fact, it is very simple. When you decide to forgive a man, you want him to do the following: (1) Let him hand over the financial power of the family, and you will be in charge of all the expenses of the family in the future. (2) After letting him cut off the relationship with the outside world, let’s talk about the problems in the marriage. The relationship with the outside world keeps on, and he will never forgive him. (3) If he commits a crime again in the future, let him go out of the house without any possessions. If a man sincerely returns, he will agree with your bottom line, treat you better in the future, and work with you to manage a good marriage. At this time, you don't have to "supervise" him all the time. As long as you hold the most important thing in your hand, you can make a man.

Third, for the rest of your life, love yourself and your children well

Although there are men who betray their marriage, there are some who sincerely return, but their feelings are flawed after all, and it is difficult to completely Let go. When a woman faces a betrayal man, she will have some scruples in her heart, and will not get along as before. Moreover, even after a man returns, he does not necessarily stick to the bottom line. Maybe he is just worried about losing his family and status, as well as his hard-earned career. When there is a certain stain in the marriage, both parties cannot return to the way they were before, and the relationship may always be in a tangle. Two people may be very harmonious on the surface, but their hearts are different, especially after a conflict occurs, it is easy to recall the previous betrayal experience. Therefore, it is not realistic for women to really let go and forgive men's past. Therefore, instead of being immersed in entanglement and pain, women might as well love themselves and their children and live a good life for themselves in the days to come, which may enable men to have a deeper awakening and repentance. Only by making a man feel sorry for you and guilty all the time, can he love you more with all his heart and take responsibility for his family. Although, this method is a bit cruel, but who makes a man betray you? Furthermore, when you focus on yourself and your children, men can definitely feel the pain of being ignored by you. At this time, you can just see his value. A man who sincerely returns will work harder to create a happy life. This is the result you need to get. Otherwise, a man has no value, and your forgiveness has no meaning. In short, after forgiveness, you will live better than before, and this is the real vision. Ye Feifei's emotional message: To sum up, after a man's betrayal, women should do these three things well: stay or leave? Women weigh the pros and cons first; they can forgive men, but they must have a bottom line; for the rest of their lives, love themselves and their children. In marriage, a woman must learn to pinpoint a man's weakness, especially a man who betrays you, even more so. Women should not be too soft-hearted, let alone set limits on themselves. Men have the value of forgiveness. You can forgive, but you must also know how to show the bottom line. If a man has no value of forgiveness, you can also choose to stop the loss in time, weigh the pros and cons, and you will know how to go in the future. In short, a woman can be gentle and kind, but your gentleness and kindness must be sharp. No matter what you have experienced, you must actively deal with the hardships of life, maintain your dignity, and believe in your own choices. You will have the last laugh. END Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on creation and sharing in the emotional field, use emotions to communicate your heart and my heart, I hope you and I get to know each other here, please follow me if you like.

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