She was blocked by her husband because she was not pregnant for three years. Should such a marriage continue?

time:2022-10-02 03:53:47 source:chloeaktas.com author:Housewife
She was blocked by her husband because she was not pregnant for three years. Should such a marriage continue?

Key words: son-in-law is too selfish My daughter has been married for three years and has yet to conceive, which caused her son-in-law to block her daughter's WeChat account and even be violent for more than two months. My daughter couldn't stand it and moved out by herself. My daughter is 28 years old now, and my son-in-law is 39 years old. They met at an English cram school more than five years ago. My daughter took a fancy to him, and I encouraged her to pursue him. We talked with our son-in-law about the fact that both parents never met when we got married. The son-in-law bought a small property right house and spent about 400,000 yuan on decoration and things. (It was all the man's money.) Then we said that the dowry must be casual, (the result was 40,000 yuan). Then, on the day of the wedding photo shoot, I originally took four sets, but only three sets were taken. Because the son-in-law said that those things that cost money and are meaningless are unnecessary, the staff members asked his daughter how is he treating you? My daughter burst into tears (this is what my daughter told me recently), you said that a girl only once in her life, who doesn't want to take some beautiful photos. Then the son-in-law usually cooks at home and the daughter does the sanitation and washing the dishes. The son-in-law always says that the daughter can't do this or that. It is said that they only care about work and do not care about family. Oh, before her son-in-law asked her daughter to resign and have children, she did not agree. She often fought coldly to have children, and her son-in-law blocked her. Shouldn't these be girls who block boys? My daughter often works overtime, and my son-in-law never picks me up to and from get off work. At first, it seemed that he did not have any bad habits, and he was quite honest. After we got married, we gave our daughter a sum of money to help him repay the rest of the car loan and mortgage, about fifteen or so. Under the influence of my son-in-law for a long time, everything is my daughter's fault, which causes my daughter to blame herself very much, feel very sorry for their family, and fail to give him a child (there is no problem with the physical examination). It was all because she often worked overtime and did not focus on her family, so she filed for divorce. The monthly income of the son-in-law is about 15,000, and the daughter is more than 6,000. I am quite verbose! Trouble looking for answers. 02. Kai Zi replied hello, I can understand your distress for your daughter, but I have to say that in all marriage relationships, a slap does not make a sound. As a bystander of your daughter's marriage, most of what you know is what your daughter tells you and what you know from the side. Usually in this case, emotions and feelings are likely to undergo secondary processing, which will cause things to lose their original state. Of course, this is not to say that what your daughter is saying is to add fuel to the fire, but we instinctively pay more attention to our emotions. For example, you said that there were originally four sets of wedding photos, but only three sets were taken later. Anyone who has taken wedding photos knows that the prices of three sets and four sets are different. When your daughter and him bought a wedding photo package, they bought four sets, indicating that both parties have reached an agreement on this matter. But why did the agreed things change temporarily and only shoot three sets? Is this because of what happened? You said it was because the son-in-law said that the money was meaningless and unnecessary, but it was clearly the money that had been spent before the photo was taken. If he thought it was meaningless, why would he agree? Is it possible that two people actually had a conflict when they chose to take a wedding photo, but your daughter didn't tell you. Your daughter said that in the process of taking pictures, the staff asked her: How is he treating you? If even the staff can't stand your son-in-law's attitude, it means that he is indeed behaving badly. What is your daughter's attitude at this time, and what her thoughts and feelings will continue to maintain this marriage, you can find out. The main thing is to understand when the conflict between the daughter and the son-in-law started. Another point, I noticed that you said that your daughter and son-in-law met in an English tuition class five years ago, and your daughter fell in love with him, and you encouraged your daughter to chase him back then. Have you ever asked your daughter what she likes about him and what is attracted to him? You will encourage your daughter to chase him, is it because some of the advantages or advantages of this man described by your daughter are accepted and recognized by you. Then you see, the problem comes again. This man was a man recognized by both your mother and daughter at the beginning. What caused the intensification of the conflict later? There is another point, you mentioned that the parents of both parties did not meet when discussing marriage. You said that "we talked with the son-in-law", do you mean that the request for marriage was negotiated with him on behalf of your daughter. The result at that time was that he bought a house for more than 400,000 yuan and gave a betrothal gift of 40,000 yuan. Judging from your message, it seems that you are not satisfied, because you said "the result was 40,000", which is the same tone as you said later, "the result was only three sets". I don't know if these details can reflect that, in fact, in the early days of your daughter and son-in-law's marriage, dissatisfaction has developed between you, and you may have a certain degree of participation in your daughter's life for the sake of your daughter's happiness. Let's look at the problems of your daughter and son-in-law after marriage. The son-in-law is in charge of cooking, and the daughter is in charge of washing the dishes, but the son-in-law always says that he can't do it here or that, and is always disliked. It sounds like the daughter is very aggrieved, but the truth of the matter is that the son-in-law constantly dislikes your daughter, or is your daughter really disregarding the family as the son-in-law said? After all, in your daughter's house, the son-in-law does the cooking. From this, it can be seen that the son-in-law is not the kind of man who does nothing and does nothing, and he shares the housework with his wife. So, when he suggested that his wife disregards the family, is it because your daughter did not pay enough for the family? Also, you said that the son-in-law asked her daughter to resign and have a child, but she did not agree. They often fought coldly over the matter of having a child. This corresponds to what you said earlier that your daughter has been married for three years and has not conceived. The real problem is that your daughter cannot give birth to a child, or is it because your daughter did not have a strong desire to have a child before? You said that in your daughter's marriage, the son-in-law has pushed all the conflicts on your daughter for a long time, causing your daughter to blame herself very much. She thinks that she often works overtime and does not focus on the family, which leads to such a result. Then we have to help the child analyze whether this is really the reason? You also said earlier that the son-in-law blamed her for taking care of her work and neglecting her family. Have you ever asked your daughter how much time she has at home? I can understand that you care about your daughter, but you might as well try to understand from the perspective of a son-in-law and ask why the son-in-law blocked his daughter and how he feels in this marriage. As a parent, only by helping children view and analyze problems more objectively, can we resolve conflicts and handle disputes. I don't know how you think about this relationship. Who do you think is more responsible? If you are also in a relationship that you don't know how to choose, you can privately message me, and I will help you analyze where the problem is and what to do.

(Responsible editor:Graduate girl)