"In the third year after giving birth, I was disliked by my husband"

time:2022-10-02 05:24:41 source:chloeaktas.com author:Working women
"In the third year after giving birth, I was disliked by my husband"

01 Reader Xiao Mo came to me and she said, "I have a very embarrassing thing that I want to tell you, and it has been bothering me for a long time." Xiao Mo gave birth to a child three years ago. After giving birth, she also wanted to save money. Nothing to do with postpartum repairs. In fact, she has always been leaking urine after giving birth, but she has never said that she can only make herself go to the toilet diligently. Whenever she feels something is not right, she goes to the toilet quickly. In addition, the pads in her home are almost never broken. Except for the few days of the monthly vacation, she spends most of the time with the pads. She didn't dare to cough or jump, for fear that she would be embarrassed in public if she moved a little bigger. She has been hiding it well all along, and she doesn't want others to know about it, not even her husband dares to say it. Xiao Mo was afraid that her husband would dislike her, and that, after giving birth to the child, she and her husband had very little married life. She had thought about whether to go to the hospital for a look, but if she did, wouldn't she let others know? I didn't even go, just kept hiding it, disguising myself very well. "I have been letting myself endure everything in silence. I don't want to tell him, for fear that he will dislike me. But not long ago, I had a cold and cough, and I didn't think much about it at home, and then I couldn't control my urine leakage. He happened to be by my side, found it, and said, 'Why are you still peeing, you are so big'. I felt so embarrassed, so I covered my face and went to the bedroom, and I cried as soon as I closed the door." "After giving birth, I went to the bedroom. In the third year of my child, I was disliked by my husband." Xiao Mo said that although he didn't say it directly, that look and tone of voice hurt her. Afterwards, her husband did not apologize to her, nor did she ask her why she leaked urine. She felt that she was not cared for. "Stress Urinary Incontinence" caused a great psychological shadow on her. She was particularly unconfident and felt very ashamed. After listening to Xiao Mo, I told her that I also had this problem in the first year after giving birth. I was pregnant at the age of 26 and had my first child at the age of 27. After giving birth, I felt that I was still very young, so I did not do postpartum repairs. It's been a long time since I gave birth, and I still have urinary incontinence. I was young and no one told me. I thought what was wrong with me. I always thought that I would be better in the future, but two years after giving birth, I still dare not dance. Later, I found relevant knowledge on the Internet, and I also tried to make myself do some very simple exercises, and I slowly recovered. After giving birth to my second child, I did postpartum rehabilitation in time, and even signed up for a private lesson in the second month after giving birth. I found that doing some simple exercises can gradually relieve urinary incontinence. Now, my second baby is 1 year and 8 months old, and I never have the same problem as when I had my first child. 02 After giving birth to a child, women will more or less have reproductive sequelae, but for a long time no one seems to tell you that there will be reproductive sequelae. We thought it would be fine if we gave birth to a child, but only after we were born did we realize that there were still so many things to do. In addition to raising a child, our own body has also undergone great changes. Before I got pregnant, I was still a girl, with a height of 168 and a weight of 53. I looked quite slim. But after giving birth, I never dared to wear pants, because when the fetus entered the basin, the whole crotch was stretched, and it was difficult to go back, which made the crotch become very heavy, and it was ugly to wear trousers. Also, the meat on the stomach is very loose, and there is no firmness as before. I worked out hard for a long time and still didn't recover. After giving birth to the first child, I recovered quite quickly after giving birth; but after giving birth to the second child, I started to feel very anxious, I found that I was too fat, and I had an inexplicable sense of fear when I was confinement. He also had a conflict with his mother because of the food issue. Later, I lost weight from 142 to 117, and I also lost weight, but so far I have not regained my pre-pregnancy weight, and I am still ten pounds away from my ideal weight. How did I lose weight? After soaking in the gym for two whole months, I went to the gym almost every day to lose weight. When the coach asked me to do some simple jumping exercises, I was afraid to do it, because I felt that I might have to pee after a few times. would be embarrassing. How did you get out of the predicament? I will tell my husband about this kind of thing, and I will tell him about any discomfort in my body. At the same time, because I am doing some series of training, when the muscle strength of the buttocks improves, it will naturally not leak urine. Now my "urinary incontinence" symptoms have eased a lot and haven't appeared for a long, long time. I don’t think leaking urine is such a shameful thing. If you feel uncomfortable in your body, you must go to the relevant hospital for treatment in time. In addition, you must insist on doing Kegel exercises, and it will definitely improve. This is a gradual process, gradually increasing the strength of the hip muscles will also reduce the symptoms of urinary leakage. Don't think that this matter will make your husband dislike it, and you don't need to please him. He should feel sorry for you after your body has suffered so much. How can you dislike it? You have to face up to this problem yourself, there is nothing to be ashamed of. 03 The movie "Hidden in the Dust" recently aired. Hai Qing played Cao Guiying, a rural woman with urinary incontinence. Her incontinence was not due to fertility, but a physical one. Because Cao Guiying urinates regardless of the occasion and time, people in the village look down on her. When they had a blind date with Ma Youtie, Cao Guiying was afraid of urinating and hurried to the toilet. On the first night of her marriage with Ma Youtie, Cao Guiying didn't dare to lie down to sleep, so she just stood awkwardly. She will always be disliked, but what can she do, and no one will show her. According to statistics, more than 30% of married women in my country have urinary leakage problems. This is well-documented. I asked my mother about leaking urine, and she said that almost everyone in her generation had this problem. It was very common. When it comes to the bright side, there will be some related gynecological diseases after the age of forty or fifty. I didn't say this to the outside world. Everyone automatically ignored the sequelae of childbirth, but it has always existed. Women should not be ashamed of leaking urine. If your husband dislikes you, you can consider whether it is necessary to keep this marriage. At the same time, don’t worry too much about the problem of urine leakage. Through reasonable exercise and treatment methods, it can be significantly improved. I am an example and am no longer bothered by leaking urine. What happens to a woman after giving birth? The pain in the stomach when the foreign body is pressed, the pain in the breast when breastfeeding, and sometimes the child will bite your nipple. Because there is no way to sleep well with a child, especially when the child is just a month old, he has to get up five or six times a night, and he is so tired that he can fall asleep sitting down. After giving birth, I didn't get a good night's sleep, because the child wanted to let his mother stay with him, and he was particularly attached to his mother. When the child is sick, the woman has to stay up all night, which is extremely hard. Someone asked me: Why are you women so hypocritical and insist on being hurt? I want to say: "Because they have endured hardships that men can't imagine in their entire lives. They seem weak but they have endured a lot, and they have endured a lot of changes both physically and mentally. It can be said that mothers gave birth to life and even raised children to grow up. , but what did the man do? The man is the vested interest in the marriage. Your wife has endured so much, why do you love her a little bit." If a man dislikes his wife because of the sequelae of childbirth, I want to ask him if he still has any Conscience, has conscience been eaten by dogs? Show more empathy, give her distress and understanding, and help her get through this difficult time together. Isn't it leaking urine? Nothing to be ashamed of, do it right. Today's topic: Are you also experiencing fertility sequelae? Welcome to leave a message. - END - ★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing warm emotional things in this world.

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