"Hidden in the Dust": Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying, tell us what marriage is?

time:2022-10-02 05:21:19 source:chloeaktas.com author:Divorced women
"Hidden in the Dust": Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying, tell us what marriage is?

Shu Ting said in "To the Oak Tree": "We share the cold wave, the wind and thunder, the thunderbolt; we share the fog, the haze, the rainbow. It seems that we are separated forever, but we are attached to each other for life. This is the great love, and the constancy is here: love— —I love not only your stalwart body, but also the position you hold on to, the land under your feet." When I was watching the movie "Hidden in the Dust", I remembered this poem. Anyone who has watched "Hidden in the Dust" will be moved by the "true love" between Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying. Is it love? The two of them don't know what love is, where can there be any love? So, which word is more accurate to describe their feelings? I thought of a word: love each other. They don't understand love, and they rarely have any verbal communication, let alone any physical glue, but the interaction between them makes us seem to see the existence of "love". They are as humble as ants, and the way they get along with each other also tells us, what is marriage? 01 What is marriage? What are we getting married for? Don't you just want to find a partner to live with you? The two take care of each other, respect each other and never dislike each other. You have children and you share the responsibility of a family. You feel sorry for each other, and you will tell each other to "pay more attention to your body and don't be too tired." You will also encounter some setbacks, but no matter how difficult it is, the two of you can always overcome the past together. You form a home, and that home has become a haven for both of you, and a haven for your children. Marriage is very simple, we all want to seek happiness in marriage, but in real life, someone always tells you that marriage is too difficult, and marriage is so bitter. What went wrong? Is it the people we meet? Are we wanting too much? Why can't you be kind to each other wholeheartedly? Is it that difficult? Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying, they are both abandoned by mainstream society. They met on a blind date. The so-called marriage is to get a marriage certificate, which is very simple. Cao Guiying was like being thrown away by her brother and sister-in-law like a "hot potato". Before she met Ma Youtie, she lived in a windy and rainy wooden shed and lived a life of being rejected and not a human being. He was not in good health, with qi deficiency and cold body all the year round, and one leg was lame. She suffers from urinary tract disease and is incontinent at all times, but has anyone thought about taking her to the doctor? No. Brother and sister-in-law don't see her as a human being. Dislike, look down on, wish it had nothing to do with me, why let her marry Ma Youtie, because she is a burden, for a woman like her, it's not bad if someone wants her, it's okay to make do. Ma Youtie, an old bachelor in the countryside who is despised and despised by others, has almost the same situation as Cao Guiying. They came together and added some brilliance and warmth to their lives. On the first night of the wedding, Ma Youtie was lying on the bed, while Cao Guiying stood beside the bed so embarrassedly, they didn't say anything. Cao Guiying was afraid that she would urinate on the bed, that she would be disliked and bring trouble to Ma Youtie. Cao Guiying was sitting on the donkey cart and was pulled by Ma Youtie to deliver paper money to her in-laws; Ma Youtie was going to donate panda blood, but Cao Guiying felt distressed, "don't smoke it"; when Ma Youtie was hot, she would give Cao Guiying one first to make her warm Ma Youtie remembered to buy her a long coat, so that even if she urinated, she would not be seen by outsiders; Cao Guiying wrapped hot water in her clothes and waited for him at the entrance of the village. To keep the water hot, she ran back and forth a lot. Together they weeded and harvested wheat, supported and helped each other; they covered adobe with plastic sheets on rainy days together; they worked hard to build a new house together. It's a very simple and simple way to get along, but it can touch people's hearts directly, because they don't have any other thoughts, they just think about each other wholeheartedly and feel sorry for each other. This is rare in a marriage. Do not dislike each other, respect each other, support each other, and have distress and understanding. Isn't this what we've always needed in our marriage? Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying moved us with their sincerity. Of course they don't understand love, but they are in the same situation, they can empathize with each other, and they finally have someone by their side, all they want is to be kind to each other wholeheartedly. There are no distracting thoughts, no desires, but instead we have the true feelings that we all hope for in the world. When he met Ma Youtie, Cao Guiying's life was considered complete. Even if she died so unexpectedly, after living with Ma Youtie, her heart was warmed. This kind of spiritual feeling is an experience she has never had before, and it is worthwhile to have such warmth in this life. The same is true for Ma Youtie, Cao Guiying is alive, he still has a family, he lives very busy, and the days get better; when Cao Guiying dies, his family is gone, the light in his heart is dim, and the days are getting more and more dead. . Some people commented on "Hidden in the Dust": The romantic background is to live side by side. Two people walking together can still live; one person is gone, and the other person is not far from death. They are also very romantic: Ma Youtie planted a flower in Cao Guiying's hand, saying that no matter where she ran, she could be found. After Cao Guiying passed away, Ma Youtie planted another flower on her hand. The flower was an imprint, and it was also saying goodbye to Guiying, and even telling herself to remember that flower and don't lose it. Knowing each other and staying together, but let us see the most beautiful marriage. 02 If people have too many desires, their life will be complicated, and they will not be wholeheartedly good for people. In real life, how many marriages are always full of all kinds of quarrels: conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, conflicts between husband and wife, conflicts in educating children, conflicts in suspecting someone outside of the other party, conflicts in disgusting each other for not being motivated. Sometimes there is no substantive conflict at all, just can't get used to each other, because a single sentence can make you cold and angry, and what's more, hit your wife with punches and kicks. All day long infighting, life is so painful, why are you getting married? Marriage did not allow them to find happiness, but added a lot of burdens, making life very painful and tiring. Think about it, why are you married? Think about it, is it necessary to persist in such an unfortunate marriage? Is it so difficult to have a true and sincere marriage? How marriage works, Ma Youtie and Cao Guiying have already told us through their way of getting along. It's very simple: think about each other, love each other, he loves you, you should love her too, treat each other as another yourself, and take it seriously , that's it. But in reality, there are many people who can't do it, because people have too many desires, too many distracting thoughts, and want to get a lot from the other party. Even if they get it, they will not be so easily satisfied. It is difficult to achieve both. If they can't get along, they can only break up. 03Marriage is very simple and complicated. It depends on what kind of person you are and what kind of person you choose to live with. If you want to have a happy marriage: you must choose someone who treats you with sincerity, and at the same time you treat him with sincerity. You have goals and plans for your life after marriage. Both of you work hard and take responsibility, and learn to be an independent thinker. Adults, you are independent, you can think openly, take responsibility together, and be more mature. I hope you can live a good life together. Why is "Hidden in the Dust" so popular? So how can a flat film resonate with you? In addition to lamenting the plight of the little people, we are more moved by the true feelings of their plain husband and wife. Without two hearts and one heart, who would not want their marriage to be like this? Today's topic: What impresses you most about "Hidden in the Dust"? Welcome to leave a message for discussion. - END - ★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing warm emotional things in this world.

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