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time：2023-03-26 08:45:47 source：chloeaktas.com author：Working women
The mistakes that most women make after meeting their ex...
Key words: encountering first love, repenting of marriage A few days ago my first love came to me, and I found that I couldn't forget him, and the person I hoped to marry was him. I started talking with him in my freshman year and he was a year older than me. I talked with him for about a year at first. Later, because of the long-distance relationship and the suspicion that he was in two boats, I deleted him on impulse, and he didn't look for me. Knowing that when I went to practice abroad in my senior year, he came to me again, and said he wanted to see me, but in the end he didn't, he was just talking about it. Later, he asked me to borrow money, but he did not repay the money according to the agreed time. I got angry and deleted his contact information. I kept a record of his loan at the time, trying to remind myself that this person shouldn't be in a relationship. This time when he came to me, he first found my classmate and asked my classmate to contact me. He said he regretted it. He also posted a circle of friends, saying that he didn't cherish it well in the past. After adding me, he told me that he lost about a million in business. I think what he meant by this was to explain why he didn't pay me back at that time. But this explanation is so many years late, and I don't want to say it anymore, I feel that there is no need for an explanation. He said that he has now returned to his hometown to find a stable job. He has gone on a blind date in the past few years, but he doesn't think it's suitable. He still thinks I'm the best. He asked me if I was married, thought I was married, and wanted to know about my situation. My current partner is very good to me. When I graduated and practiced, they agreed with me that he would go wherever I go. I've gotten used to him over the years, but I know I don't really like him very much. If my first love didn't show up, I would definitely get married honestly and live like this for the rest of my life. But now I'm shaken, I can't let go of my first love, and I've been thinking about him since he came to me. And he has always said that he wants to reconcile with me and marry me, but I think he is not sincere, he is just talking about it. Another point is that he has nothing now, and my married partner has already bought a house. My mother thinks that the house is very important. He always said respect me and accept my choice. But I don't want to hurt my marriage partner. He is really kind to me, but I really want to continue with my first love, Brother Kai, what should I do? 02. Kai Zi replied to the girl hello, I don't know how other people will feel when they see your letter, and will they be anxious for you. Many girls are prone to make the mistake of not cherishing the happiness that is within reach, because it is too easy to take seriously, but it will be unforgettable for someone who has hurt them. Why is this? It's the "unfinished event" I've told you over and over again. From a psychological point of view, when we have "unfinished events" in our hearts, it makes us linger. It's like there is an unfinished circle in front of you, you can't help but want to finish the circle and make this incomplete circle more complete. It can also be understood that we have some unmet needs in our hearts, because we have not reached the ideal state, so people will have a feeling of regret and lack. For example, when you are with the boy of your first love, it seems that he makes your heart beat, but in fact, it is because you have too many regrets with this person, and these regrets make you angry and the grievance never disappears. His presence makes waves in your heart, and makes those "regret", "unforgettable" and "indignant" feelings in the past reappear. This emergence brings fluctuations in your inner feelings, so you feel that you still have a feeling of love for him, which you understand as a heartbeat. But it wasn't, it was just his presence that revived emotions and feelings from the past. In my consulting cases, many girls have made similar choices. I can't feel the waves in the current relationship, so I think it's because I don't love, so I'm so calm. Some girls just yearn for that kind of "vigorous" feeling, but what is "vigorous"? After all, it's hard for anything "dramatic" to really happen in peaceful times. Therefore, at this time, the so-called "vigorous" will be manifested in the entanglement, torture and quarrel between the two parties. To put it bluntly, it means that two people can't live a good life, and they have to cause a lot of things. Every day, they are thrilling, and they make a lot of noise. This is the so-called "vigorous". Indeed, constant tossing can bring people a thrilling feeling, and it is easy to understand that this is heartbeat. This is why many people are easy to regret in the end because they are moths to the flames without turning back their hearts. After talking about the psychological factors, we might as well take a look at what kind of person this first love is. 1. If he was unfaithful to you, why would he be unfaithful, and then he was on two boats? There is only one reason, he doesn't like you very much, you delete him, and he will never contact you again. He doesn't even have the idea to explain it to himself, do you think that's a sign of caring? 2. Don't believe what he said. He found you in your senior year and said he wanted to find you, but in the end he just talked about it. Does he want to see you, or does he want to borrow money from you? What's more, after borrowing money, there is no explanation for paying it back, and there is no mention of repayment after that. Do you still dare to believe such a man? 3. Selfishness and altruism On the surface, he says he respects your choice, but in fact he has no sincerity at all. Your fiancé is getting ready for the marriage room, and he has paid so much for you over the years, and you have finally come to the point of entering into marriage. And he stopped halfway and had nothing, let alone what he could give you. He didn't even offer to pay back the money he owed before, so what else did he talk about with you? What's more, he has returned to his hometown now, and he is not in the same city as you. Does he want you to give up everything and go to him? Are we just talking together? Like the way he treated you before? Are you just kidding? 5. Not pragmatic enough He explained to you that he has lost more than one million in business in the past few years, and now he has returned to his hometown to find a stable job. Have you ever wondered how he got more than one million in business? Is such a large sum of money borrowed? Like he borrowed from you. So since he can even owe you money without paying it back, is it possible that he also owes money to others? You have nothing to do with him, you may have to pay off your debts with him, and you have to start over in a strange city. Do you think this is what you want? I hope you can think twice about what I said today, and don't give up the happiness in front of you easily. What's more, he has only come to see you for a few days. In the past few days, all you have seen is beautiful. You might as well calm down for a few days and think about it. I don't know what everyone thinks, what advice would you give this girl? If a past lover suddenly appears in your life, making you upset and overwhelmed, you can privately message me, and I will help you analyze how to choose and avoid missing the right person.
Key words: encountering first love, repenting of marriage A few days ago my first love came to me, and I found that I couldn't forget him, and the person I hoped to marry was him. I started talking with him in my freshman year and he was a year older than me. I talked with him for about a year at first. Later, because of the long-distance relationship and the suspicion that he was in two boats, I deleted him on impulse, and he didn't look for me. Knowing that when I went to practice abroad in my senior year, he came to me again, and said he wanted to see me, but in the end he didn't, he was just talking about it. Later, he asked me to borrow money, but he did not repay the money according to the agreed time. I got angry and deleted his contact information. I kept a record of his loan at the time, trying to remind myself that this person shouldn't be in a relationship. This time when he came to me, he first found my classmate and asked my classmate to contact me. He said he regretted it. He also posted a circle of friends, saying that he didn't cherish it well in the past. After adding me, he told me that he lost about a million in business. I think what he meant by this was to explain why he didn't pay me back at that time. But this explanation is so many years late, and I don't want to say it anymore, I feel that there is no need for an explanation. He said that he has now returned to his hometown to find a stable job. He has gone on a blind date in the past few years, but he doesn't think it's suitable. He still thinks I'm the best. He asked me if I was married, thought I was married, and wanted to know about my situation. My current partner is very good to me. When I graduated and practiced, they agreed with me that he would go wherever I go. I've gotten used to him over the years, but I know I don't really like him very much. If my first love didn't show up, I would definitely get married honestly and live like this for the rest of my life. But now I'm shaken, I can't let go of my first love, and I've been thinking about him since he came to me. And he has always said that he wants to reconcile with me and marry me, but I think he is not sincere, he is just talking about it. Another point is that he has nothing now, and my married partner has already bought a house. My mother thinks that the house is very important. He always said respect me and accept my choice. But I don't want to hurt my marriage partner. He is really kind to me, but I really want to continue with my first love, Brother Kai, what should I do? 02. Kai Zi replied to the girl hello, I don't know how other people will feel when they see your letter, and will they be anxious for you. Many girls are prone to make the mistake of not cherishing the happiness that is within reach, because it is too easy to take seriously, but it will be unforgettable for someone who has hurt them. Why is this? It's the "unfinished event" I've told you over and over again. From a psychological point of view, when we have "unfinished events" in our hearts, it makes us linger. It's like there is an unfinished circle in front of you, you can't help but want to finish the circle and make this incomplete circle more complete. It can also be understood that we have some unmet needs in our hearts, because we have not reached the ideal state, so people will have a feeling of regret and lack. For example, when you are with the boy of your first love, it seems that he makes your heart beat, but in fact, it is because you have too many regrets with this person, and these regrets make you angry and the grievance never disappears. His presence makes waves in your heart, and makes those "regret", "unforgettable" and "indignant" feelings in the past reappear. This emergence brings fluctuations in your inner feelings, so you feel that you still have a feeling of love for him, which you understand as a heartbeat. But it wasn't, it was just his presence that revived emotions and feelings from the past. In my consulting cases, many girls have made similar choices. I can't feel the waves in the current relationship, so I think it's because I don't love, so I'm so calm. Some girls just yearn for that kind of "vigorous" feeling, but what is "vigorous"? After all, it's hard for anything "dramatic" to really happen in peaceful times. Therefore, at this time, the so-called "vigorous" will be manifested in the entanglement, torture and quarrel between the two parties. To put it bluntly, it means that two people can't live a good life, and they have to cause a lot of things. Every day, they are thrilling, and they make a lot of noise. This is the so-called "vigorous". Indeed, constant tossing can bring people a thrilling feeling, and it is easy to understand that this is heartbeat. This is why many people are easy to regret in the end because they are moths to the flames without turning back their hearts. After talking about the psychological factors, we might as well take a look at what kind of person this first love is. 1. If he was unfaithful to you, why would he be unfaithful, and then he was on two boats? There is only one reason, he doesn't like you very much, you delete him, and he will never contact you again. He doesn't even have the idea to explain it to himself, do you think that's a sign of caring? 2. Don't believe what he said. He found you in your senior year and said he wanted to find you, but in the end he just talked about it. Does he want to see you, or does he want to borrow money from you? What's more, after borrowing money, there is no explanation for paying it back, and there is no mention of repayment after that. Do you still dare to believe such a man? 3. Selfishness and altruism On the surface, he says he respects your choice, but in fact he has no sincerity at all. Your fiancé is getting ready for the marriage room, and he has paid so much for you over the years, and you have finally come to the point of entering into marriage. And he stopped halfway and had nothing, let alone what he could give you. He didn't even offer to pay back the money he owed before, so what else did he talk about with you? What's more, he has returned to his hometown now, and he is not in the same city as you. Does he want you to give up everything and go to him? Are we just talking together? Like the way he treated you before? Are you just kidding? 5. Not pragmatic enough He explained to you that he has lost more than one million in business in the past few years, and now he has returned to his hometown to find a stable job. Have you ever wondered how he got more than one million in business? Is such a large sum of money borrowed? Like he borrowed from you. So since he can even owe you money without paying it back, is it possible that he also owes money to others? You have nothing to do with him, you may have to pay off your debts with him, and you have to start over in a strange city. Do you think this is what you want? I hope you can think twice about what I said today, and don't give up the happiness in front of you easily. What's more, he has only come to see you for a few days. In the past few days, all you have seen is beautiful. You might as well calm down for a few days and think about it. I don't know what everyone thinks, what advice would you give this girl? If a past lover suddenly appears in your life, making you upset and overwhelmed, you can privately message me, and I will help you analyze how to choose and avoid missing the right person.
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