If you don't get married and don't have children all your life, will it really be miserable when you get old?

time:2022-12-03 00:12:15 source:chloeaktas.com author:A solitary woman
If you don't get married and don't have children all your life, will it really be miserable when you get old?

01 There is a hot post on Zhihu, "Where is the way for older leftover women? "The author said that he has a relative, 65 years old, who belongs to the kind that will be left to the end of the day. This relative died the second year after her mother's death. Their family members generally live long, no one younger than 88 years old, but she passed away early. The author attributes her death to the fact that after her mother died, she had no one to speak to. To put it bluntly, it is too lonely. Brothers, sisters and classmates have their own families, and the topics are all about their own families and children. But she, in contrast, was lonely, especially after her mother died, her whole body collapsed and her spirit also collapsed. In the author's writing, it shows us how miserable it is for a woman not to marry and not have children. In my later years, compared with my brothers, sisters, classmates and colleagues, I am so out of place. Everyone has a wife, children, and grandchildren. The whole family is happy. On the other hand, if you don’t get married and don’t have children, what is there? There is nothing but yourself, and it is naturally extremely miserable. How miserable, there is no one to speak to, and it is too early to die. Don't you deserve to be so miserable in your old age if you don't get married and don't have children? I didn't read the word "sympathy" from the author's words, but it was a kind of sneering on the sidelines, I felt that his relative didn't get married and didn't have children, and he "deserved" to end like this. If you don't get married and don't have children all your life, will it really be miserable when you get old? Did the author's relatives really end up so miserable because they didn't get married or have children? I have a question mark on his statement. According to him, the relatives were very beautiful when they were young and had a good job. They worked in nursing in a certain hospital. After retirement, they still have a pension of 8,000 yuan and have their own house. Such a good condition, shouldn't it be a good life, but no. One of her relatives had a severe fever, and as a result, no one could take care of her, so she was thirsty and hungry. I think it's very strange, why is this? 65 years old, isn't it 80 or 90 years old, legs and feet are not easy, don't you call the hospital by yourself when you have a cold and a fever? And she herself is engaged in nursing work, so she should have some connections and resources, so it won't be so miserable, no one cares about her, she will be thirsty and hungry. If it really is what he said, unless there is a psychological character disorder, otherwise it will not reach this point. The author also said that his relative was deceived and was deceived with no money, saying that because she had no children to help her identify, her pension was defrauded. What's worse is that she is often bullied. I also doubt this point. If in a community in Tianjin, bullying an old man who lives alone so wildly, is there really no one to take care of it? What does a community committee do? I have doubts about the post made by this author. He used a natural brush to write how miserable his relative was, and why it was so miserable, because he didn’t get married and didn’t have children. There is someone around who can help her. He attributed the bleak night scene of his relatives to not getting married and not having children. If it is true as he said, even if this relative of his gets married and has a child, it will not end well? How is a person's later life like? Having children is one aspect, but it is more related to who you are. Under his brushstrokes, relatives are very dependent on people, and they are stubborn and stubborn when they don't listen to persuasion, and even a little confused. Who can live with such an old man? Even if there are children, the children may not be able to bear her. So, it's not that she is so miserable by not getting married and not having children, but her own character has problems, which makes her life so sad in her later years. 02 "No children, no husband, no complete family! Whenever she sees other families with three happy families, doesn't she regret it? When she sees the children and grandchildren of the same age, doesn't she regret it? Her regrets are turning green, but , I can't go back, I can no longer live a normal life!" These are the original words of the author. In his opinion, how could his relatives not regret it? Everyone else is a happy family of three, and you are alone, but you can't go back, you can't even live a normal life, and you won't have the chance to live it again. Who told you that everyone else is a family of three happy scenes. Can you be happy when you get married? After getting married and having children, is there really no trouble at all? It is too taken for granted that marriage and childbirth are defined as all happiness in life. Actually? Looking around, there are many unfortunate marriages in life, some are divorced, some are widowed, some have children and die unexpectedly, "white-haired people send black-haired people". In this society, there are more and more people of all kinds. It is not because you get married and have children that you can have a happy family. There are too many variables. We can only be happy if we marry a like-minded person with good character and have children, but it only increases the probability of happiness, not necessarily happiness. During this period, you have to take responsibility, you have to pay for your children, and even in old age you have to take care of your children. What kind of life do you choose? It doesn't necessarily mean that if you don't get married and don't have children, you will have a miserable life. Some people have experienced the bitterness of marriage, but they still envy those who are left. At least they only need to be responsible for themselves, they have no burden, and there is no pressure to live, and they will not suffer as much as he was in marriage. You see, it doesn't matter whether you are married or not, we are always like this, people outside the city envy those in the city, people in the city envy those outside the city, and everyone envies each other. 03 I am married and have children and have two children, but I never feel how miserable it will be for people who don't get married all their lives? What if it was a little miserable in old age? At least when I was young, I was very happy. It depends on what I think. If I really want to get married, I will end it early. Since he can bear the pain of not getting married, it shows that his own mentality is still okay, otherwise he will collapse and get married early. At any time, don't take an individual's extreme case, and categorically think that people will definitely have a bleak evening. It is actually very stupid to have such a thought. How a person lives in this life and how he lives in his later years is mostly related to him, and he is the most critical factor. My mother-in-law also talked to me about how miserable the unmarried woman in her 40s would be in the future. From my mother-in-law's point of view, how lonely a person is. I went back to her. She has a serious job and will have a pension in the future. How miserable it can be. Since it is past the age of marriage, it is impossible to meet anyone who wants to get married, so it is better not to get married. Rather than feel wronged after getting married, it's better to live a smart life alone. In your opinion, people are so lonely, maybe they are doing well. I still say the same thing: whether to get married or not depends on your own needs. If you can't stand the eyes of others, then you are already married. Since you choose not to get married and not have children, it shows that your heart can bear it and your mentality is also good. Then live the life you choose. Others say how miserable it would be for you to be unmarried and have no children, let them say, love whoever. We have come this time, not all of which are not brought by life, not brought by death, and will eventually return to dust, as long as you live your life seriously and live up to yourself, that's fine. Today's topic: If you don't get married and don't have children, will you die alone? Welcome to leave a message. - END - ★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing warm emotional things in this world.

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