Don't just want a man to be nice to you, girl don't be stupid anymore

time:2022-12-02 21:25:52 source:chloeaktas.com author:Girl
Don't just want a man to be nice to you, girl don't be stupid anymore

Keywords: I don't know who to choose After the divorce, the child belongs to me, and now my parents take care of me, and he doesn't care about anything. I thought at the time, that's what I'll do for the rest of my life. But I didn't expect that I met an uncle on the Internet, and he gave me a feeling that I haven't had for many years. This uncle has a son and owns a shop, but he has no house. I know in my heart that we are not suitable to be together. During this period, my relatives introduced a person to me. I couldn't like it in my heart, but he was very warm to me, and I felt that he liked me very much. He said that for the sake of my children, he could accept that he would not have children after marrying me and treat my children as his own, and I was very moved. I know that he is very honest and willing to pay for me, but I don't like him, I don't know if we can really live together like this? I'm very entangled now, and I'm afraid that I won't meet such a suitable person after I give up on him. Excuse me, Brother Kai, what should I do? 02. Kai Zi replied to the girl hello. From your letter, it can be seen that you are a girl who does not know enough about herself and has no plans. Your ex-husband is an irresponsible man who likes to lie, cheat and gamble. I don't know if you've ever asked yourself after your divorce why you chose such a man in the first place, and whether you've learned lessons from this failed relationship. But I don't seem to see from your letter that you do this. You said that when you think about it, it will be like this for the rest of your life. To a young girl, having such negative thoughts may seem like pessimism about the future, but it's actually avoiding the mistakes you've made. If you don't reflect or review, this means that the same mistakes may be repeated in the future. Some girls will think that the reason why my marriage failed is because I was too young and didn't know how to read people. But often the so-called ignorance has a lot to do with their own internal needs. For example, an insecure girl can easily fall in love with a bad man. Because in her heart, as long as this man can be nice to her, sweet mouth, and give enough emotional value, the quality and conditions will be ignored. This is why it is important to sum up the lessons of failure, to know why you love the wrong person, in order to avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future. Failure to do this step will cause you to continue to be tempted by an unfruitful uncle. You said, this uncle gave you a feeling that you haven't had for many years. What is this feeling? Just caring about you, caring for you, taking care of you. Have you found that this is completely in line with the feature I mentioned earlier that the mouth is sweet and can give sufficient emotional value. Even if you know that the uncle cannot satisfy you in terms of age and economy, you will still choose to associate with him and maintain a relationship. You may wish to carefully compare the psychology and motivation of your ex-husband when you chose it. Are there any similarities in their attraction to you? Let's talk about the blind date introduced to you by your relatives. You said that you didn't like it in your heart. After I didn't like it, I noticed that you said: I know that he is an honest man. Usually in the eyes of girls, what is honesty is the kind of man who is not good at expressing, can't speak, and looks very real, and will be called "honest". From this point of view, the reason why you don't like this man is because he can't bring you emotional value compared to the uncle, he won't coax you, and he won't speak sweet words. I said this, I don’t know if you realize it yourself, your current state is not who you want to choose, but someone you don’t even know what you want. What you are looking for seems to be love, is to want to be loved, but is actually just a man who will make you happy. I also have to say that why some girls' marriages fail repeatedly is this reason. Because no man will keep you happy all the time. A good relationship is not about giving emotional value unilaterally, but when both can give to each other and accept a long-lasting life. Only then can we be happy. What's more, if you have nothing, you can only be good to you, and this kind of good will only appear cheap. You ask me what to do, I can only advise you not to blindly choose until you know what you want. Even if this "honest" man is your best choice at the moment, can you really grasp it? Your heart is not on him, and he can't give you the "feel" you want. Even if such a relationship is barely maintained, how long can it last? Even if you insist on staying with him, and you hurt him in the end, he will also choose to leave you. I don't know how you think this girl should choose? What do you think she should choose now? Feel free to share your views and opinions in the comments section below. If you are like her and don't know what kind of person to choose to spend your life with, you can privately message me, and I will help you analyze the pros and cons and teach you how to make the right choice.

(Responsible editor:Divorced women)

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