It is becoming more and more common for couples to separate beds. What is the reason behind it?

time:2022-12-02 23:14:54 source:chloeaktas.com author:Graduate girl
It is becoming more and more common for couples to separate beds. What is the reason behind it?

Text / Ye Feifei yff picture / From the Internet I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional tutor, who writes heartfelt emotional words, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort. Liu Yong said: "The belt gradually widens and I don't regret it. It makes people haggard for Yixiao." Men and women who truly love each other always want to snuggle together and feel the sweetness and romance of love. However, in reality, more and more couples are moving towards the edge of bed separation, and the distance between hearts is getting farther and farther. I have seen many couples around. They are normal during the day and seem to love each other, but at night, they are separated, and they don't want to lean on each other at all. Such couples, like neighbors living together, have become the most familiar strangers to each other. It has to be said that in today's marriages, the separation of husband and wife has become the norm, which has affected the normal development of the relationship between husband and wife. So, it is becoming more and more common for couples to separate beds. What is the reason behind it? It is nothing more than the following three points:

1. Dislike each other and cannot accept each other's shortcomings

We know that there are no perfect people in this world , everyone will have some shortcomings more or less. It is possible that when men and women are in love, they largely ignore the shortcomings of the other half during the period of passionate love, do not care about them, and have a strong sense of tolerance. However, once you move from love to marriage, the shortcomings of men and women are infinitely magnified, and the situation you see at this time is the most real. Therefore, in marriage, husbands and wives do not have the cover-up when they are in love, and they all expose their truest side. At this time, once the husband and wife dislike each other and cannot accept each other's shortcomings, the natural relationship will become indifferent. Therefore, when many couples propose to separate beds, they are actually disgusting the other half's shortcomings and dislike each other's small appearance. In this way, they either quarreled or directly proposed to separate, and there was no longer any desire to snuggle together. For example, after some men get married, they do not pay attention to hygiene and like to throw clothes and socks around, which makes women very upset when they see them. In particular, some men are snoring, and women can't stand it at all, so they reject being close to men. A colleague, Miss Xu, complained. She said that her husband often grinds his teeth and talks in his sleep, which makes her unable to rest well at all, which affects the spirit of going to work the next day. So, she and her husband proposed to separate, and no one paid attention to the other. It has been more than five years since they separated. It has to be said that between husband and wife, the other half's appearance and shortcomings cannot be tolerated, which has become an important reason for separation. It seems inconspicuous, but it has a serious impact on the marriage.

Second, addicted to mobile phones and gradually become the "invisible killer" of marriage

Nowadays, mobile phones are very common, and everyone can't do without it. In addition to normal work needs, in life, mobile phones have also become everyone's dependence and emotional outlet. In the marriage, the current state of husband and wife has changed from the sweet embrace in the past to a situation where they are addicted to mobile phones and do not disturb each other. Whenever they return home, the husband and wife hold their mobile phones and play on their own, while the other half is gradually neglected. Apart from making the necessary phone calls, both men and women will indulge in their own world and become indifferent to the relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, mobile phones, gradually replacing the other half, are constantly swallowing up marriages and becoming the "invisible killer" of marriages. After thinking about it, the relationship between husband and wife is really getting colder and colder now. After they got home from get off work, they didn't communicate, and it seemed extravagant to say a word. Even if they had to communicate, they would rather talk less, never talk more, and always be in a state of non-interference. It's hard to rest, you will find that the couple is lying on the bed, not sleepy at all, but continue to hold the mobile phone and immerse in it. At this time, if you want to be intimate with the other half, you will almost always be rejected, and maybe you will quarrel because of it. After a long time, both sides lost patience and no interest, so they proposed to separate and became "good neighbors". This is the impact of mobile phones. If couples do not pay attention to adjustment and do not take the initiative to maintain their relationship, the relationship will be disintegrated sooner or later.

Three, if there is an affair, the marriage exists in name only

In reality, many couples separate, and the most important reason is that one party has an affair, which makes the marriage exist in name only. . In a marriage, once one party changes his mind and has an affair, the relationship collapses instantly. Even if you choose to endure the pain alone for the sake of your family and children, and continue to support it, it is impossible to be close to the betrayal. At this time, splitting the bed is the best way. The husband and wife are not bothered by sight, and the boundaries are completely drawn. This kind of marriage is in name only. The betrayal of the original pair is full of disgust and even hatred, and it is absolutely impossible for the other party to get close. My friend Miss Sun and her husband have been married for thirteen years. They lived a peaceful life and had a harmonious family. However, by chance, Miss Sun saw her husband and other women holding hands and being intimate outside, and she was instantly angry. When she found out that her husband had betrayed her, she felt very distressed and wanted to end the divorce, but she still endured the pain and stayed for the sake of the child. However, from then on, she separated from her husband and did not allow her husband to approach her, and the relationship between husband and wife dropped to freezing point in an instant. In the eyes of others, Miss Sun and her husband are a loving couple, but only she knows that she and her husband have become strangers and will never go back. Therefore, in marriage, once one party breaks through the bottom line of loyalty, the relationship between husband and wife will fall apart. Even if they do not divorce, the two parties will no longer be close. Ye Feifei's emotional message: Munir Nasoff said: "The most valuable thing in married life is sincerity, trust and consideration." However, in reality, few couples can really do this. In today's marriages, the phenomenon of husband and wife separation is becoming more and more common, which may have sounded the alarm for marriage. If the husband and wife do not take the initiative to maintain their relationship and let the relationship continue to be indifferent and alienated, the final outcome will definitely be very painful. To sum up, it is more and more common for couples to separate beds. There are three reasons behind them: they dislike each other and cannot accept each other's shortcomings; they are addicted to mobile phones and gradually become the "invisible killer" of marriage; I hope that couples in reality can attract attention and maintain a good relationship together. Otherwise, once the husband and wife become the most familiar strangers and form a state of living together, it will be difficult to live a happy life. END Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on creation and sharing in the emotional field, use emotions to communicate your heart and my heart, I hope you and I get to know each other here, please follow me if you like.

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