A single mother's self-report: "The ex-husband who is not in contact suddenly said that he wants to see the child, the purpose is too obvious"

time:2022-12-02 20:53:11 source:chloeaktas.com author:Girl
A single mother's self-report: "The ex-husband who is not in contact suddenly said that he wants to see the child, the purpose is too obvious"

Will children who grow up in single-parent families be happy? Divorce brings more than just leaving for two people, the most important thing is that for the child, it is a part of him that he needs to accept. There will definitely be a lack of parental love or motherly love. Definitely not complete. Readme: Ms. Meng, 33 years old, when my ex-husband and I got married, we were both only 22 years old. At that time, we were still children who were not very experienced in the world, and we didn’t know much about many things. We simply do not understand the meaning of marriage to two people. In fact, it is not suitable for us to marry and live together because of our personalities. Of course, when my daughter was two years old, the conflict intensified. We had already deeply realized that we were not suitable for each other. At that time, I was 25 years old. At that time, he only made 8,000 yuan a month, and I made 10,000 yuan (sales is a bit hard), but he asked me to be a full-time mother. Being a full-time mother, I am not very disgusted. As long as he gives me a proper living allowance, I told him that 5,000 yuan must be paid. He said no, other people's wives only spend two or three thousand one month, why do you To spend 5000? So, in the fourth month after my daughter was born, I entrusted my mother to take care of it, and I went to work again. This reason became the focus of our argument all the time, he thinks I don't love you anymore. Later, in a fit of anger, I decided to get a divorce. At that time, my daughter was a little over two years old. The ex-husband didn't hold back at all, and he didn't actually love his daughter, because their family always wanted a son. After giving birth to my daughter, his mother didn't help to take care of her, and always made excuses to say that her back was sore, so I could only entrust my daughter to my mother. There is also a younger brother in my family, and my mother did not help me with it for nothing. I gave her 4,000 yuan a month as living expenses and care expenses. My ex-husband felt that I gave too much, because I was my grandmother, so I should help with the children. I said it was my own money, and your mother didn't bring it, so what do you want? ! The disagreement of the three views determines that the days of living together will be very painful and anxious, making people feel like a bottomless black hole. Because there is almost no common property, the divorce is also very simple, and he said that he does not want custody of his daughter, I said it is fine, you can just pay child support. At the beginning, I discussed with him about 2,000 monthly alimony, and he said it was too much. If you give me 2000 per month, it will definitely affect the quality of his girlfriends in the future. Their living burden will be very heavy, and sooner or later he will get married again, and he will have another child. Then I say you want to give Give as much as you want, whatever you want. He said it was only 800, I said that would be fine, as long as you don’t visit your daughter less often, he said don’t worry, I will have my own child in the future, just treat it like I haven’t given birth, let me come and I won’t see it Woolen cloth? ! In this way, we blocked each other, but I left him a bank card number, and he would pay me 800 alimony every six months, 4800 for six months in a row, and there was not a single penny or half a sentence. greeting. After a year and a half like this, he found a landline to say that he had remarried, and he was a little tight. Can he pay the child support later? I say okay. Of course, it was never given again, not for more than a year, so I couldn't help questioning him. He said money was tight and he had no money. I said it doesn't matter, then you will have nothing to do with your daughter in the future. If you admit this, I will not ask for a penny of child support. The ex-husband said yes, they are preparing for pregnancy, so they don't have this daughter, and they won't let their daughters care when they get old. In this way, we haven't had much contact all the time, but one day he suddenly contacted me not long ago, saying that he wanted to see his daughter. At this moment, my daughter and I have a very stable life. Although I have not remarried, I have made some progress in my work, my salary has increased by two or three times, and I have bought my own house. It is the best school district of our generation. house. I also wonder, why did my ex-husband go back and see his daughter? Later, I learned from a mutual friend of others that he and his current wife were married for four or five years, and they never gave birth to a child. It turns out that now I want to recognize my relatives! Man, it's really cruel and realistic. Of course, I rejected him severely and told him not to contact him in the future. Written on the back: Remember that failure in marriage does not mean failure in life. As long as you have a positive outlook on life, you can raise healthy, happy children. Therefore, it is right to keep a distance from such scumbags, which can also reduce the burden on children in the future. For such a man, of course, he refuses to meet the child. Otherwise, the child is not a private item that he will abandon if he wants to, and he will recognize it if he wants to recognize it? ! I sincerely hope that this single mother can get rid of the scumbag completely and find her true happiness as soon as possible. Discussion: Do you think you should refuse your ex-husband to see the children?

(Responsible editor:Working women)

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