Extramarital affairs, there will be no results, and there will be no good results

time:2023-01-30 06:38:33 source:chloeaktas.com author:Divorced women
Extramarital affairs, there will be no results, and there will be no good results

Keywords: extramarital affair I love my children very much, but not my husband. I have a flash marriage with him. When I met him, I happened to have a failed relationship. After spending a month with him, I found out that I was pregnant, so I got married in a hurry. Originally, I wanted to make do with it for the rest of my life, but this year, I met again a man I loved before. He had a family of his own, but he wasn't happy, so I got back with him again. But now I find that he has changed a lot. In the past, he was very accommodating to me and talked a lot with me, but now he has no time to talk to me and often doesn't reply to my messages. When I said he was not good to me, he said that I was having trouble with him, that he couldn't stand me, that I had nothing to do with me. When I met him, I thought he would be my whole world and give me everything I wanted. But it's not like that at all now, he hasn't contacted me all day. I'm very sad now, I didn't think that even he was willing to give up on me, Brother Kai, do I have nothing to miss? 02. Kai Zi replied to the girl hello, in your few words, you described three failed relationships. Paragraph 1: Your relationship with your ex-boyfriend. Paragraph 2: Your relationship with your current husband. Paragraph 3: Your relationship with this married man. I don't know if you have ever thought about a question, why does your relationship always fail? Is it because these men are not good, or no matter who gets along with you, can't be good? Do you know that if a person wants to reap good feelings, he does not keep changing people, but he must know how to find his own reasons and deal with his own problems. Only then can we make changes. Let's take a look at the method you adopted: 1. Your relationship with your ex-boyfriend failed, you quickly found your current husband within a month, and immediately got married due to pregnancy. 2. You have no relationship with your husband, you went to a married man, and you tried to get spiritual sustenance from the married man. 3. With a married man, I hope he can respond to you in time every day. If you can't do it, you will make trouble with him. From the above three points, have you found that you are a very insecure woman, and you are also very narcissistic. Your focus is on yourself, you care about how you feel in the moment. You probably rarely think about why these men are leaving you, or why every relationship of yours fails. I really want to remind girls who fail in every relationship that the reason for a relationship failure is often the way you approach it. It can be seen from the relatively detailed relationship between you and the married man that you hope that the other party can give you the most timely response and give you unlimited tolerance. Then this pattern doesn't just show up in relationships with this married man, it's probably the case for you and anyone else. Your ex, your husband, once they can't follow you in everything, can't respond to you in time, or even this married man hasn't contacted you for a day, you will feel sad, thinking "even he is willing to give up on you". As you can imagine, the way you treat your lover will make people feel more suffocated and depressed. To answer your question finally, you ask me if I have nothing to miss. You must understand that the other person is a married man and you are a married woman. You keep pestering him, not only destroying the other's family, but also hurting your own family. This is not a question of whether you should be nostalgic, but whether you can be nostalgic! I wonder what everyone will think when they see her letter, and what advice will they give her? If you are like her, every relationship ends in failure, and you don't know where the problem is, hurry up and send me a private message, I will help you analyze and find the reason! 03. Letter from readers Key words: How to mention a breakup Hello Kai, one thing that has been bothering me for the past month is the difference between breaking up and not breaking up. I met him on the Internet. His family is from Sichuan, and I am from Guangdong. I am 25 years old this year, and he is 30 years old. We have known him for almost two years. He was divorced and had a daughter. He had thought about marrying him before, but he had stopped thinking about it in the past six months. In my heart, I felt that I would not be able to survive after getting married. There was no one who was ready to be a stepmother, nor did I have the confidence to be a good mother. But he came to work here in Guangdong this year because of me, making his daughter a left-behind child, and he felt very sorry. But it was also this year that I worked together in the same place, and I discovered that we were not suitable at all. I feel that our three views are a little different, and I feel that he can't give me the life I want, and I don't know what to say if I want to break up. This month has been procrastinating, I don't know what to do, and now I remember that Kai can write to you, I hope you can give me some advice. 04. Kai Zi replied to the girl hello, I can feel that you are very embarrassed now. For an unmarried girl who is only 25 years old, it is indeed not recommended that you find a man who is divorced and has children. Moreover, according to your description, this man is not an ideal marriage partner. It can be seen from the fact that he can leave the child at home to come to Guangdong to find you: 1. His sense of responsibility is not enough, and his needs for himself are greater than those of his children. 2. He has no career foundation and is not stable enough. He easily leaves his hometown for love, which shows that he is an impetuous and unfounded person. Now that you have realized that he is not suitable, there is no need to continue to drag on. I believe you also want to showdown with him, but you just don't know how to showdown. Maybe you want to find a more euphemistic way to make him withdraw voluntarily without feeling hurt or entangled with you. But you have to understand that there is no such way. No matter what way you reject him, it may be difficult for him to accept it. After all, he feels that he has come all the way for you, and that he has made his child a left-behind child for you. These efforts will make it difficult for him to face the frustration caused by your rejection. You have to figure it out for yourself, if you are afraid that he will get emotional because of his frustration, you can only continue to procrastinate silently. Breaking up is something that requires a gentle and firm attitude. It is paradoxical and will only waste your own time and make you more and more embarrassed. Therefore, what you need to think about now may not be what to do, but why you are afraid to say goodbye, what are you afraid of saying goodbye? Of course, before breaking up, you can do the following things: 1. Send him a signal that he wants to break up You can express some of your disappointment and dissatisfaction with the relationship in your usual communication, and let him realize that the relationship between you A problem has occurred. 2. Gradually show estrangement In the cases I consulted, I would find that many people are duplicitous, they clearly want to break up, but they still have to show a very enthusiastic look, and use various ways to imply the other party. In this way, you think it is a hint, but the other party can't receive it, and it will only backfire. 3. Draw a clear economic boundary. Since you are going to break up, don't spend the other party's money, let alone spend the other party's money. Including renting a house and eating, it is best to distinguish these clearly, and the economy is still mixed together, it is difficult for the other party to think that you plan to break up. I hope my suggestions can give you some reference, but after all, the content of your letter is limited, so I can only give you these suggestions. If you want to give up a relationship like her, but don't know how to do it well, you can privately message me and I'll teach you how to do it.

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