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Couples who have passed middle age and live a life of "abstinence" are often farsighted in doing so

time：2023-03-26 12:42:08 source：chloeaktas.com author：Working women

Couples who have passed middle age and live a life of "abstinence" are often farsighted in doing so

Text / Ye Feifei yff picture / From the Internet I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional tutor, who writes heartfelt emotional words, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort. A few days ago, I wrote an article "More and more couples are living a "abstinence" life, which is cruel", and I received many comments from readers, many of whom were asking how to change this kind of behavior. state? Perhaps, in today's couples, the separation of husband and wife has become the norm, and it has also brought great obstacles to the relationship between husband and wife. In order to improve the intimacy of the relationship between husband and wife and bring the marriage back to the previous state of love, I think it is necessary to write another article to discuss how to change the relationship between husband and wife alienation. In fact, more and more alienation between husband and wife does not mean that they do not love each other, but more because the pressure of life is high, and the husband and wife choose to separate due to reality. In addition, when couples return home, the influence of mobile phones has also accelerated emotional alienation, which is also a problem that needs to be reflected and solved. As long as the husband and wife are of one heart and take the initiative to maintain a good relationship, I believe that the relationship between husband and wife will gradually become closer and regain the feeling of love at the beginning. After all, couples who have passed middle age and live a life of "abstinence" are often very far-sighted:

First, put down the phone , frequent communication between husband and wife

Jane Austen said: "A happy marriage requires not only the exchange of ideas, but also the exchange of feelings. Keeping the feelings in your heart will push your wife out of your life. "Both men and women, need to strengthen communication after marriage, even if it is irrelevant nonsense, both parties should often talk about it. In life, when couples are free, they should chat more and have a sense of active communication. The most important thing is that both parties should put down their mobile phones, don't hold and play with them, and ignore the other half. When each other is no longer immersed in the mobile phone, can they return to a normal state of communication, and the intimacy between the two parties will be qualitatively improved. Moreover, they both have the desire to talk actively, so that they can really put down their mobile phones and make the relationship between husband and wife more harmonious. Furthermore, in life, couples should learn to care for each other. Many times, a caring word or a warm hug can instantly feel a deep love. For example, after a man comes home from get off work, a woman who cares and asks "Is he tired?" will make the man feel very comforted. In the same way, when a woman cooks a sumptuous meal, a man should express his concern and gratitude in time: his wife has worked hard. In fact, these small details in daily life are often the easiest to touch each other. As long as couples do this often, their relationship will definitely become more and more harmonious. Both parties have a sense of active communication, no longer relying on mobile phones, naturally there will be emotional needs, and the relationship will become more intimate.

Second, refusing to separate the room and letting the couple return to the state of sharing the same bed

Separation, on the surface, just widens the distance between husband and wife, but in reality What separates them is the love between husband and wife. In marriage, if the heart-to-heart distance between husband and wife is widened, it will be difficult to return to the way it was before. As the old saying goes, "Leaves don't turn yellow in one day, and hearts don't cool in one day." If a husband and wife are separated for a long time, their hearts will gradually become cold. Therefore, between husband and wife, no matter what the reason is, do not separate the room, this is the basis for maintaining the relationship. As long as husband and wife sleep together in the same bed, they can maintain a harmonious relationship between husband and wife and have a feeling of love. In life, I have seen many examples of husband and wife alienation, almost all of which are caused by separation. For example, after a woman gives birth to a child, she puts all her attention on the baby and ignores her husband, so they are separated. Or, a man likes to snore, a woman thinks that the rest is not good, and proposes to separate, but it does not affect each other, but in the end they separate for a long time. For another example, couples are forced to go to different places due to the pressure of life, which also leads to the gradual indifference of the relationship between husband and wife and the further alienation of the relationship. In a marriage, if the husband and wife are separated for a long time, it will definitely accelerate the alienation of the relationship and form a state of strangers to each other. Men and women have been together for a long time, but have no emotional desires. This state is very abnormal. If it cannot be changed in time, it is easy to cause estrangement. Therefore, between husband and wife, we must reach a consensus: resolutely not to separate the room. Only in this way can couples return to the state of love in the same bed as soon as possible.

Third, avoid different places, companionship is the longest confession

The most emotional confession is not "I love you", but "I accompany you" . Between husband and wife, can often accompany, the relationship is definitely not bad, only in the company can really feel the quality of love. Therefore, it is best for couples to avoid different places and stay with their lover as much as possible, so that the relationship will not be alienated and indifferent. Even if the pressure is high, it is not that they will not be separated temporarily. Couples should always care about each other and have more understanding so as not to cause estrangement. When you have time, you should go home to see your lover and children, and spend more time with your family so that there will be no cracks in your marriage. In reality, some couples have been away for a long time, not only without communication, but also without care and companionship. This is obviously wrong. Even if couples can't accompany each other for a long time, in daily life, they can do it by caring more about each other. It's not difficult to make a phone call, say a few words of concern, and learn to maintain relationships. Therefore, whether the relationship between husband and wife is good or not depends on whether each other has the awareness to actively maintain the relationship. As long as both parties are often concerned and strengthen communication, I believe that the relationship will not be affected too much. To be honest, husband and wife are not as close as they used to be. As long as both parties break this state and actively maintain a good relationship, the relationship will naturally return to the way it once was, and the marriage will be happy. Ye Feifei yff's emotional message: To sum up, if a husband and wife have passed middle age, if they live a life of "abstinence", it is very far-sighted to do so: put down the mobile phone, and communicate frequently between husband and wife; refuse to separate rooms, let the husband and wife return to the same bed together The state of the pillow; avoiding different places, companionship is the most affectionate confession. I hope that couples in reality can gain some insight and take the initiative to maintain a good relationship between husband and wife. Whether a marriage is good or not is not determined by material things, but by emotions. As long as you are emotionally satisfied and spiritually comforted, you can make the relationship more harmonious. Therefore, couples must correct their mentality in time and maintain a good relationship with their hearts. When they find the feeling of love for each other, life will definitely be full of sunshine and get the happiness they want. In a word, marriage requires not only the triviality of firewood, rice, oil and salt, but also the romance of romantic affairs. I hope that every couple can be intimate and be treated tenderly by the years. END Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on creation and sharing in the emotional field, use emotions to communicate your heart and my heart, I hope you and I get to know each other here, please follow me if you like.

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