Is Ma Bao Nan worth marrying? Women, don't be confused

time:2023-01-30 04:44:26 source:chloeaktas.com author:A solitary woman
Is Ma Bao Nan worth marrying? Women, don't be confused

Keywords: Boyfriend is Mabao I am now a sales director in a private company. He is an ordinary employee of a public institution. My income is much higher than his. But my mother felt that his family could find a better one, saying that my job was not within the system, that I was not an only child, and that my parents had no pension. His mother was very opposed to us being together, and even followed him, afraid that he would contact me. My boyfriend is filial, even a little bit mama. He was fine with me before, but now he is putting a lot of fucking pressure on him, and he is becoming more and more impatient with me, saying that he feels a lot of pressure. So I also thought about breaking up, and he said to give him more time to convince his mother. I don't know if I should wait or not, the only thing I can't let go is the feelings of the past few years. 02. Kai Zi replied hello girl, seeing your letter, it is obvious that your conditions are much better than your boyfriend. He is already 37 years old, and his mother has to monitor him to this extent, and can control him like this, you have to understand that this boy is no longer a bit of a mother's treasure, but a very mother's treasure. It should be said that his behavior is not in line with his age. As a mature male in his 40s, he obviously does not show a mature side. And they will be concerned about your family situation, and they will take out the problems that you are no longer in the system, you are not an only child, and your parents do not have pensions. It can also be seen from the side that this man has no responsibility. At least it's enough to show that his economic situation is not enough to support everything in the future, and he doesn't believe that he has such ability in the future. He can't afford it, which will cause him to appear very insecure. There is another possibility, why does his mother dislike you, is it really because of your poor conditions? No, it is precisely because your conditions are much better than his son's that she uses this method to suppress you. What's the use of hello, we still despise you. You also start to doubt yourself because of his dislike, and at this point, they succeed. From now on, you can firmly control you. It is also a means of mental manipulation, by belittling you, destroying your self-confidence, making you look up to them, and even creating a false perception that their acceptance of you is simply a gift to you. At this point, they win and you lose. Think about it, if the foundation of a relationship is based on games, where would love come from? You have to understand that when a man is a mother's treasure, he will definitely consider the problem from the mother's point of view. At this time, it is possible that even if you are together, some things are clearly right for you, but he does not dare to support you, and even subconsciously opposes. Because he didn't dare to oppose his mother. Especially when you are angry, even if he clearly knows that it is his fault, he only needs to coax you, and he will not coax, why, because he is afraid that you will make an inch. He is afraid that you will take a step forward, and his mother will be even more angry when he sees it, so in order not to offend his mother, he cannot coax you. The more angry you are, the happier his mother will be, and the more angry your mother will be, the more he will love him. You must realize one thing, what is Ma Bao, that is, this man has no subjective meaning at all, and his mother has an invisible rope in his hand to tie him. And that's not the main problem, what's really bad is that the 37-year-old man is willing to listen to his mother. He didn't realize his mother's influence on him, and he didn't want to break through the status quo. You ask me if I should wait, but the question is actually as follows: 1. Do you have the courage to face that after continuing to persist, he will eventually choose to give up? 2. Even if he is really married, he will ask you to obey your mother like him. Can you do it? 3. His mother will always be hostile to you, can you accept it? From a psychological point of view, Ma Bao Nan is a narcissistic personality, and this narcissism comes from his mother's doting. This leads to a man with a strong sense of self that he thinks he is privileged and deserves special care. And after you get along with him for the past few years, you will also find that it is difficult for him to take responsibility, and it is easier for him to escape and shirk. So you say should wait? You've been in a relationship for 5 years, not 5 months, and I don't know why you've been in a relationship for so many years before it didn't work out. But one thing, if this man wants to marry you, he is not too young, why wait so long? Now you can't get married because your mother is against it, what was the reason before? Think about it, when you are with him, there is always one reason or another that you can't get together in the end, so what can your waiting change? I don't know what advice you will give her when you see this girl's story? Do you think she should wait? What do you think of Ma Bao Nan? Feel free to share your views and opinions in the comments section below. If you, like this girl, have been in a relationship for a few years, but you have encountered various obstacles and cannot come together, send me a private message, and I will help you analyze the root of the problem and tell you whether you should continue.

(Responsible editor:Graduate girl)

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