The failed marriage of a second-married woman: I want to warn all unmarried girls

time:2022-10-02 03:31:23 source:chloeaktas.com author:Housewife
The failed marriage of a second-married woman: I want to warn all unmarried girls

01. Key words for the reader's letter: Second marriage, I want to leave Kai brother Hello, I am 24 years old this year, he is 36 years old. We are both married to him, and we have a child when we get married. My son is 2 years old and his daughter is 10 years old. He is a front-line employee of a state-owned enterprise, and his monthly income is about 12,000 to 15,000. After deducting living expenses, we can save about 5,000 each month. I had another child with him after we got married, and it's only 8 months now. Do you think I am very happy? Marry a nice man, I started to think so too. When he and I first got married, he would give me all my salary and I could save money every month. But soon I found out that he would gamble, he was slowly unwilling to give me his salary, and he also had online loans. I don't know how much he owes outside now. Since Xiaobao was born, he only gave me living expenses every month. The money is just enough for the child to spend, and if he asks for it again, he says there is no more. I have a headache right now, with such a young child, I can't possibly get a divorce, but I'm only 24 years old, and I don't want my life to be this bad. I wanted to go out to work, but no one helped me with the younger ones, and the older ones only went to kindergarten. Where can I find a job? I sometimes ask myself if I will get a divorce if I don't have a child, and I think the answer is yes, if I don't have this child, I will definitely get a divorce. I'm leaving this man who wasted my life, but what am I going to do now. I hope Brother Kai can give me some pointers and tell me how to choose. 02. Kai Zi replied to the girl hello, at the age of 24, life seems to see the end, which really makes people feel confused and confused. Sometimes life is like this. When you encounter a level, you are in a dilemma. With your current situation, I have to say, you don't really have a better choice. You look young and can have better and more futures, but those good things are far away from you right now, because the choices you made at the beginning mean you've given up on good things. You've had two marriages at 24, two kids from different fathers, and you can tell you've struggled once. The feeling of confusion you have now also had a few years ago, the only difference is that you only had one child at that time, you were still younger, and you might think that you have more opportunities and possibilities. But have you noticed that this is not the case, whether you are 24 years old now, or you were younger when your first marriage failed, you will be in trouble again and again. Like your letter said, if you don't have children, you will definitely get divorced and you will leave the man who wasted your life. Maybe what you really need to think about is whether this man is wasting your life, or whether you choose to waste your life. At 24 years old, many girls may not have graduated from college at this age, or have just graduated from college. And you've been married twice and have two children. This shows that in your world, your understanding of life is limited to getting married and having children. What you are confused about now is not the impact of marriage and having children on you, but the fact that you find that the man you have chosen still cannot meet your needs. For example, when you just got married and he gave you all his salary, you would feel happy at that time, but now you are unhappy because he can't give you money, you find out that he gambles and owes debts . So even if you do it again, your choice may still be to find a man you think can provide you with security, enter the marriage again, have another child, and be confused and confused again. I thought, this must not be what you want, is it? Then you need to realize that leaving is not your best option right now. Not to mention whether you can find a better man after you leave, the more realistic question is, how will your two children be raised after you leave? You want to go to work now, but the child is too young to be taken. This question should have been realized when your first marriage failed, but you didn't learn from one bite. Then you have to understand that your problem is not at all whether you can go out to work or whether there is someone to help you take care of your children. It's that not being able to go out and look for a job is just an excuse for you that you don't really want to make a difference. I don't know if you can understand what I said. You asked me how you should choose. The truth is that you don't have the right to choose. When you can really go out to work one day, you can deal with the problems of your children, and you have money in your hands, then it is the right time to think about how to choose. I don't know what everyone will think of this story, what advice would you give her? Feel free to share your suggestions and opinions in the comments section below. I hope that every girl can carefully evaluate and think carefully before entering a relationship. If you don’t know how to judge, quickly find me by private message, I will help you analyze and help you make the right choice. 03. Key words in the letter from readers: Girlfriend and best friend borrow money Kaige! Hello, there is something that really bothers me. My girlfriend's best friend used my girlfriend's WeChat to chat with me and borrow money from me. I didn't want to borrow it, but she kept begging me. For the sake of my girlfriend, I still borrowed it, probably more than 10,000 yuan. But when it came time to agree to repay, she couldn't get in touch. I asked my girlfriend for the contact information of her best friend, but she refused to give me the contact information. Later, I gave me a number, and my girlfriend called and said it was her best friend's relative who answered the phone, but they didn't recognize the money. I also borrowed the money to help her, and now I feel very tired. And I have a vague feeling that things are not so simple, but I don't want to believe it, what should I do? 04. Kai Zi replied hello, you said that you have a vague feeling that things are not so simple, but you don’t want to believe it. Have you ever asked yourself what you don’t want to believe? Whether you don't want to believe that you will be cheated, or you don't want to believe that your girlfriend is cheating on you. I think you should have realized by now that the money has a high probability of not getting it back, and you are so entangled in the fact that you are not willing to face the fact that you cannot get it back. Just like the girls who come to me for consultation, they are often not deceived once, but will be deceived again and again. We look as if this person is naive, innocent, and easy to deceive. In fact, not only for this reason, but also for the fact that it is difficult for us to accept the fact that we have been deceived. Because being deceived will make me feel bad and ashamed. It turns out that people like you and say so many good things, not because of how good you are, but because of your money. Such a gap can easily lead to a sense of shame, and some people will continue to be deceived in order to avoid this feeling and begin to deceive themselves. Therefore, when we find that we may be deceived, it is very important to have the ability to introspect, recognize the truth of the facts, and accept the truth and stop losses in time. I don't know what everyone will think of this so-called girlfriend's best friend? Do you think it's the girlfriend who has the problem, or the best friend? If you are like him, and you encounter something that makes you feel strange in your relationship, especially if the object wants to borrow money from you, quickly send a private message to me, and I will help you analyze the purpose of the other party's loan to avoid being deceived!

(Responsible editor:A solitary woman)