Searching, searching, deserted: seven fatal wounds of blind date, lonely and no discussion

time:2023-03-26 13:23:49 source:chloeaktas.com author:Divorced women
Searching, searching, deserted: seven fatal wounds of blind date, lonely and no discussion

Hefei Love Couple's Marriage and Love Lesson - Searching, Seeking, Lonely: Seven Deadly Wounds of Blind Dates, Lonely and No Negotiation! Searching and searching, deserted, desolate and miserable. When it is warm and cold, it is the most difficult to rest. The yellow flowers are piled up all over the ground, haggard and damaged, who can pick them now? Guarding the window, how can it be dark alone! This time, what a worry about the word... Song: Li Qingzhao's "Slow Voice, Xun Xun Mi" There are a huge number of singles in today's society, of all ages and classes. Among them, there are active unmarried people (those who do not want to get married, or those who enjoy happiness), and there are more passive unmarried people (those who really want to get married, but their peach blossom luck is often bad). Let's talk about the seven fatal injuries of passive singles. I hope you can improve your cognition and hold your favorite lover as soon as possible - 1. Ungrounded nitpicking: many people just go on a blind date, no matter who they see, come back Immediately complained: The boy Zhang invited me to dinner with a group purchase coupon, and the stingy man lost his Pass! The boy Li actually said that he was looking for a girl who likes to do housework, and the straight boy has a cancer pass! ... This kind of ungrounded and critical blind date attitude makes it difficult to find a suitable partner, and even if you meet by chance, it is difficult to maintain an intimate relationship. In fact, no matter how good a love and marriage relationship is, after all, it still has to be implemented in the daily life of chai, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea, and it needs to be tolerant and understanding of each other. There is no perfect person in the world, and the "points" that you despise when you go on a blind date are actually mostly irrelevant. And for some real shortcomings, you may still turn a blind eye, and finally get hurt. 2. The asymmetry of mate choice: A so-called "three high" girl with "high education", "high income" and a little "high" age, from a social point of view, she is indeed very mature and excellent, while the relatives and friends around her are indeed very mature and excellent. Friends kept talking in a cheering voice: "A good girl like you must have a blind date with a good boy who is right in the house"! But as everyone knows, boys with good conditions may not necessarily value your high education and high income, and even dislike your age. Year after year, the requirements of narcissistic girls have not been adjusted or lowered in time, while the number of boys who meet her standards has become less and less. In the final analysis, those conditions that you think are your advantages are another calculation in the marriage and love market. The people you value do not value you. This is your age reducing your points and downgrading your weight. It is important to know that a woman's age is one of the most important considerations for a boy to choose a mate. 3. The shadow brought by the divorce of the parents: the parents were not in harmony since childhood, the hot and cold wars were constant, the family relationship was chaotic, and there was little love and happiness in childhood. When such a child grows up, even if there is a desire for love and mate selection, the yearning for a happy marriage may be indifferent or even indifferent. Furthermore, the harsh family environment and influence that I have been exposed to since childhood will lead to the lack of normal love ability, and it will be difficult to maintain an intimate love relationship in the future. (The pictures and texts are edited according to the network. Please correct me if there is anything wrong.) Fourth, the eyes are high and the hands are low. Limited and weak execution, even if you meet the requirements occasionally, you can't hold the other party. To put it bluntly, this is the heart of Huan Ming. Maid's life, young lady's heart. Obviously the conditions are average, but the appetite for finding a partner is not small. Obviously only 60 points, but he always overestimates himself with 90 points. If you look for a partner according to the 90-point standard, it will naturally be difficult to find. Over time, it is easy to be in a state of self-pity and inability to achieve. 5. Always think that the latecomer is better: Obviously the conditions are good, and there is no shortage of suitors, but it is hesitant and unable to win. "Natural beauty is hard to give up", and he is reluctant to "give up an entire forest for one tree". Blind date one after another, the fly in the ointment, I believe today. I just hope there will be someone better in the future. However, as time goes by, the scope of your mate selection will become smaller and smaller. The forest is disappearing little by little, and the story of the monkey breaking the corn is sad. 6. Experienced love calamity, once bitten by a snake: Due to the trauma of the previous relationship, I invested too much, once bitten by a snake, and I was afraid of the rope for ten years, so I was timid and then entered a new love, fearing that I would fall into it again, and it would be difficult. extricate themselves. But in life, love and marriage, like anything else, failure is a normal thing. No one is without experience without failure. The important thing is that you pick yourself up, learn to replay, learn to start all over again. Many things in a relationship are not necessarily all the fault of the other party. A failed relationship or marriage is like a mirror that also reflects your own shortcomings. In the process of the negation of love, we must make continuous progress and become a better person who understands love better. 7. Be lucky and wait for the rabbit: I often say "When will my sweet love turn my turn" in my heart, but there are few actions to go on a blind date. Always stay at home thinking about an encounter, an unexpected encounter. Persistently believe that love is fate and destiny, and what should come will always come. Yes, wait for 100 years, the mountain will not turn the water, and that person will come. But how long are your most effective years? If the time does not wait for me, then the belt will gradually widen and I will not regret it. Look for him thousands of times in the crowd. Remember, the secret to finding love is immediate action.

(Responsible editor:Single woman)

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